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No, I am finally living in a city I like, without moving. It grew up around me.
To you, I would say YES try a change if you are feeling stuck. Maybe you like it, maybe you don't but it gives you a better idea, maybe you figure out the problem is you and follows you. None of these seem worse than just feeling stuck, and wondering.
No, I live in Chicago, the city that's the answer to 90% of questions that sound like "where should I live if I want X, Y, and Z" unless X, Y, or Z was "mountains".
I definitely live in the wrong place. I finally found "my place" in Berlin and then I lost my job. Now I live in southern Germany, where everything is impossibly pretty and people aren't weird enough (and all events start with a Catholic service). Although my ear specialist does have the alien from The Thing hanging on the wall.
13 years ago I moved to Los Angeles from the middle of nowhere (Iowa). I fell in love with the city and now it’s much more my home than where I’m from.
The problem is that lately I feel like I belong somewhere fast-paced. The people here move at a snail’s pace with zero self-awareness. It’s enough that just going outside to do simple errands drives me crazy. It feels like it takes people a long time to simply respond to a green light.
I recently came back from a vacation to Mexico and while they definitely have a host of problems (many which also drive me crazy) I always come back feeling like I’ve lost a sense of purpose and being: Mexico has so many more third spaces and things to do, and everyone seems to be outside actually living.
Not sure what my point is, but I know what you mean. I also think some of us are simply meant to travel more and just don’t feel satisfied doing the same day to day tasks.
As a chill person who likes to take things slow and deliberate, but is living in the greater Boston area where everyone is in a rush for no reason and nobody slows down for even a second... Trade?
I recently took a trip to the Netherlands, and that is the kind of place I want to be. Not even just Amsterdam, I traveled to a couple other smaller cities. The "You mind your own business and don't be a dick and I'll do the same" mentality was very pleasant, as that's how I try and live anyway... Interestingly, I talked with some Dutch guys while I was there, and they all seemed to hate it, and one of them wished to move to the southwest USA and live on a ranch with tons of land or something. The classic "You want what you can't have". I want affordable reliable robust public transit, walkable car-free infrastructure, and healthcare lol.
I also live in Germany, in a relatively small town near a big city. And I like it here. On foot I am in the forest in five minutes and for shopping etc. I am in the city within about 10-20 minutes both by car or bus. The only thing that really bothers me are the sometimes high temperatures in the summer. If I left Germany, I would probably go north. But for now, I will stay.
Money will run out eventuelly and then what?
You'll be in the same place you are now, with more experience, and the possibility you're happier :)