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[–] Zink@programming.dev 7 points 22 hours ago

I see the humor in this, but I am also exactly the kind of nerd that has correct data fields for everybody from my wife to my grandma and nice and nephews. In a text conversation it’s usually just profile picture with first name under it.

I suspect I’m not the only one, considering the audience.

[–] onnekas@sopuli.xyz 16 points 1 day ago

My girlfriend saved me as "DO NOT PICK UP [my name] [my birthday] [my field of study]" The DO NOT PICK UP part is from a time when I didn't have a flatrate for calls and she had... but that was like 5 years ago.

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Fyi, if you're bad with names, I would HIGHLY recommend adding photos to your contacts, as you add them.

It helps hugely with putting names to faces. It also helps differentiate between people. E.g. When you have 5 marks in your phone, but can't remember the surname. Lastly, it helps when you are describing someone to someone else. Being able to easily pull up a photo of them simplifies things.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 day ago

people don't do this for family at least?

[–] Dicska@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

A relatively crappier version of this is to add them middle names. Brassica Walmart Kale might look weird if they see it, but it will help you remember that you know Brassica Kale from Walmart. For older compatibility reasons, I used to store helpful middle names starting with a period, so it's easier to search for them (so Brassica .Walmart Kale). Addig photos is a great idea, I don't do it often enough (as long as they let you take a photo).

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Don't have a work phone?

You're in my phone as WORK XXXXX WORK

I know not to answer immediately.

[–] blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I was looking very carefully for a subtle spelling difference or something before realising that it is "bad" to use a person's name.

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

But it's not really bad, right?

... right?

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

it's "bad" to have your spouse's contact name as their full name rather than "wife", it's the same thing as having your parent call you by your full name

[–] LilB0kChoy@midwest.social 4 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Or it's security conscious. You know who your wife, mom, dad, siblings etc. all are but if they're saved in your phone that way and someone gets access to your contacts it's easier to, potentially, phish them because you can manipulate the relationship.

Otherwise they're just a bunch of names that don't mean much to anyone but you or people that know you.

[–] Halosheep@lemm.ee 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

I think most people's conversation with their wife would indicate their relationship anyway. Probably a pointless differentiation.

[–] LilB0kChoy@midwest.social 1 points 22 hours ago

Maybe, maybe not, but it could mean the difference between having your account emptied and not.

It's also not very good security keeping long text chains saved rather than periodically deleting and starting a new one with people you text private information too.

It's always going to be a compromise between security and ease of use, just a matter of where each person falls.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

It seems like the real difference might be how many people are on your contact list. When I only had a handful of friends and family I would also be informal. However at one point I synched a company directory and since then have been much more complete with my contact data so they are easier to find

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Full name is useful for searching and sorting.

But where’s the obvious joke about the triplets?

[–] Waraugh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 39 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Interesting, I have my wife in my phone as Jennifer Wortman also

[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

I'll go ahead and add your wife's last name to my phone now that I know it, thanks mate

[–] wischi@programming.dev 43 points 1 day ago (7 children)

All contacts on my phone are stored with their real full name including my wife, children and parents. Maybe it's my adhd but I would hate trying to find someone but can't remember how I saved their details.

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago

I started doing this more properly when I kept finding myself with contacts like "Jim Applebee's" and "McFucker" and having zero idea who they were actually ever attached to

[–] SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I also have all my contacts with full name sorted by last name. Just makes searching a contact easier, also that way you can tell Siri to call someone using their full name. You can just put in the contact details what your relationship is to that person and Siri will use that info. So you can just say to Siri “Call my wife” “Call my son” and still have them stored with their full name.

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[–] DontTreadOnBigfoot@lemmy.world 75 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I find it very useful to have my wife's full name in my contacts.

We are involved in a lot of community organizations, and it makes it super easy to just share her contact card with people.

[–] Dicska@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Now that you mention, maybe my brother shouldn't have saved his fiancé as "Suspected Spam". Weird to share.

My friend's daughter has her as "Spawn Point"

[–] ndupont@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Same here, never edited her contact in 15 years I think

[–] Frostbeard@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I editet my wifes last name when we married. She wanted to change her name, necessitating the hassle for me to edit her contact information

[–] RvTV95XBeo@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago

Same! The lengths we go for the people we love...

[–] gaael@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This is crazy. What kind of barbarian doesn't properly format contacts in a standardized and civilized way?!?

If he doesn't change it to "WORTMAN, Jennifer" very soon, that's ground for divorce.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

People do regular maintensnce on their contacts?

I just noticed i've got each name x3 (exports & imports) and some of them last used 15 years ago.

[–] gaael@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago

I just lost a dozen blood vessels ^^

[–] lemmyknow@lemmy.today 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Why not just add name onto Name and surname onto Surname fields?

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[–] TachyonTele@piefed.social 39 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That's a good thing. Means he never got rid of her as a contact, kept her since the first time they exchanged numbers!

I don't think I've ever updated anyone's name in my contacts lol My married friends are all still thier OG names.

I never update numbers. I realize when I see things like Danielle (Brothers name's gf).

He married her in 2019 and they have 2 kids now. Pretty safe to say I could have updated it. Just about every woman I know who got married and changed their last name, I never updated. I never delete numbers either, I don't actively talk to the 890 contacts in my phone, I may talk to 4. They just don't take up enough room to bother and who knows, maybe I go back to another town 10 years from now and call a random guy I remember. If we met up at bar it'd be like we had been hanging out the week before anyways.

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[–] Windex007@lemmy.world 34 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"Wife #1"

Didn't take it well

[–] ceenote@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago (2 children)

As long as you list the other one as "Wife A" so that neither feels inferior.

[–] edgemaster72@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

Or or, the fighting mongooses! That's a cool name!

[–] Windex007@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My rebuttal of "what, you wanna be #2" did nothing to ease the tension

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[–] teolan@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have two friends who have been a couple for 2 years and stiil both had each other's contacts as "name Japanese" because they met in a Japanese class.

[–] bleistift2@sopuli.xyz 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The only correct way to list your spouse in your phone

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