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[–] Bebopalouie@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (10 children)

This “hydration” crap.

Up until the late 1970’s for approx 300,000 years of humans being around hydrated themselves just fine.

Long as there was water available one would drink when their body signaled them by getting thirsty (don’t care about exceptions to the rule where someone has a medical issue or if water was limited in high school, your a big person now). All of a sudden humans forgot to drink fluids?

Bullshit.

It’s just yet another scam the drink makers have perpetrated to get people to buy the various liquid products they sell.

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[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You don't need more protein, you need more fiber.

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[–] melsaskca@lemmy.ca 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The stock market is a scam, value has become meaningless, and capitalism is a slow march to societal breakdown and revolution.

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[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Lemmy is as much of a cesspool as Twitter, but left-tinted.

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[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I don't think humans deserve pets.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’ve considered that it’s likely not ethical to have pets, but dogs at least have been bred over thousands of years to the point that they’ve become dependent on us.

[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 6 points 1 day ago

It is, but after “inheriting” two dogs (from my wife) and growing crazy attached to them I’m glad I was able to square the ethics. 😆

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[–] Libb@jlai.lu 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I think education should be demanding, so much so that we should all be fine with kids failing at it instead of blaming the school for it. I think grades should only and honestly reflect the level of understanding of each student on whatever they are supposed to be learning, not make them feel good about themselves.

The school should not be there to make the student feel 'good' or 'understood' (that's the family's job). School main purpose should be to make them smarter, which is something that demands practice and efforts, like anything.

Making them smarter means making them better equipped to deal with the real world, that is not a fairy tale kingdom filled with nice people and magical animals that will make them feel welcome and where they lived happily ever after.

Instead of lying to those kids, the school should help them prepare to become an adult person able to face a not-perfect world with a not perfect population, and teach them how to use their effing brains to solve any of the many problems they will face in their life (personal as well as professional)—and for that making them study their lessons, aka memorize stuff (even stupid shit one will never use again) and having to do their stupid homework, and get a failing grade when they don't, is still the best and the simplest way to develop.

Kids that are being told they're amazing perfect little creatures (they're not), and that they should never have to break a sweat in school (they should) are being lied to. Even more sadly for them, compared to those other kids that are still encouraged to face that they're aren't perfect angels and that they should put in the work, every single day, all year long, they're the ones being screwed up. Big.

Feel free to downvote as much as you want.

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[–] SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 10 points 1 day ago (3 children)
[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

I hope you mean chunks of pineapple on top of a pineapple sauce that is on top of either a pineapple slice, or (if you're a wimp) a dough made with both pureed pineapples and pineapple juice

Because otherwise, it ain't a real pineapple pizza, it's just a pizza with pineapple on it, and that is for posers.

Real pineapple pizza for life, yo!

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Addendum: the only wrong topping on a pizza is the one you personally don't like.

I passionately agree

[–] iii@mander.xyz 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Aggresive leftifts confirm the right wing bias, creating an escalating dynamic.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes extremists on both sides can be truly awful. Plus some people are just aggressive, it's nasty to deal with and really aggravated things

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 6 points 1 day ago

The horseshoe theory seems to hold. The extremes of both political sides have more in common with eachother than with the people on the middle.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

If it wasn't for American gun owners, the fascists would have already destroyed us.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Forcing students to take notes is counterproductive: I was most successful in those classes in which I wasn’t forced to take notes. It only ever distracted me from listening to the teacher.

Also, for foreign language classes actually being forced to speak the language in class is so valuable. I had one teacher who focused on big cultural projects with very little language instruction and her students (including me) all did pretty poorly.

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Forcing students to take notes is counterproductive: I was most successful in those classes in which I wasn’t forced to takes notes. Taking notes only distracted me from listening to the teacher.

I noticed more and more younger people thinking along that line. As an old fart myself, I will say I find this as worrisome as realizing the same younger generations are reading less and less books, even going to college.

I will also say it's because most of those younger people were never taught the proper technique of reading and note-taking (grossly summarized, note-taking is not about trying to write what's being said by the teacher/speaker, it's about synthesizing the ideas/infos in one's own words, so in reality there is very little writing to be done when listening to lesson or a lecture (good lectures are built around a lot of repetitions of the same information, over and over again, so the speaker can be pretty sure most students did get it).

Not being able to take-notes (and to read books) is a huge loss, for those kids. They should demand their teachers or their parents, or anyone that has learned it already, to teach them the technique but why would they even bother asking since they get no opportunity to realize how much they're missing out by not learning it? I'm sad for them, because they're the one being screwed up (compared to kids their age that do read and know how to take notes).

Also, for foreign language classes actually being forced to speak the language in class is so valuable. I had one teacher who focused on big cultural projects with very little language instruction and her students (including me) all did pretty poorly.

100% this. The only thing that should matter is to speak the language with as much excitement/fun/interest as possible. Even grammar, which is essential, comes second to that.

edit: typos.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was in high school during the early 2000s (which is mostly what I’m thinking of). I had unusable dial-up internet living in the middle of nowhere, so it’s not exactly like I’m so young and I just didn’t take notes because I can look up everything later.

People have different learning styles—I learn by listening. Taking notes (and being forced to simply copy everything on the board) distracts from that, so I’m later forced to review everything again instead of simply picking it up by listening in the moment.

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

and being forced to simply copy everything on the board

Like I said, it's exactly what note taking is not supposed to be. Copying is moronic and one should blame the teachers (and their own teachers before them) for ruining a technique that has proven its efficiency.

But whatever. I'm old enough to not worry too much about myself and I also know things won't get any better before they get a lot worse. So be it.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

People that are heavily abstracted in their functional thought do not need notes to learn. The most essential factor is intuitively presented information. Like Richard Feynman said, 'if you can't explain it intuitively, you do not understand the subject in the first place.'

I could pass absolutely any test just by attending a class and listening. I absolutely despised the nominal repetitive framework of homework as oppressive authoritarian nonsense. I attended school to learn and any incompetent wretch that could not do their job in the allotted time they were given on the clock, was not my problem to fix on my time. Training me to be a slave that works at home on my own time is an unethical and immoral methodology that I refused to accept in life even as a kid. It is toxic corporate propaganda at the most fundamental level of society. I work on a clock and never for free, and I am exceptionally competent at understanding what I am told, when I am told, without memorization, or demeaning repetition that lowers my bar of nominal expectation and holds me back to the limits of others.

School was largely structured for memorization skills. Memorization is worthless in the real world. No one is reading their notes from school 45 years later. True understanding is always an abstraction and it is that abstract understanding that, when useful, has long term staying power in the mind. Notes aid in memorization, and if that is what is needed for a person to force the mind into an abstract understanding, so be it. Some of us exist only within or on the edge of abstraction and process information directly in this space.

Don't misunderstand me here. You are not wrong. Most people are not like me in this regard. I tested as an outlier for intuitive inference skills as early as TCAP (Tennessee) in 3rd grade with an invitation to Duke from those results.

I'm simply pointing out that this notes skill is not universal. I would not say I'm the most avid reader, but I have my own hard science fiction universe called Parsec-7 that I like to play with, I've read most of Asimov's fiction, the Dune series, and am sitting in front of a couple hundred books in my closet with everything from optics to astronomy, cycling, mechanical engineering, programming, Linux, to metallurgy, machining, and metal casting. My grammar is terrible, but I generally manage to convey my thoughts to others. My complexity management skills are somewhat weak, and that is the only tangible skill where note taking might have indirectly assisted, but probably not. The abstract concepts underpinning JSON and mind maps are what have helped me far more than notes could have done in any capacity. Anyways, abstraction is the goal. Memorization is a failure.

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[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

The trick is to take very brief notes and then write them out after class (when you still remember the details). Students should be taught to how to take notes (I was, they taught us to take notes and do research in the first year of university).

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The mismanagement of housing in the West is an insurmountable failure that cannot be recovered from. American workers can never become competitive, and birth rate decline is a terminal cancer with no cure. The cost of living is artificial but there is no way to reset the suicide switch that is the atrocity of housing mismanagement in most Western countries.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Economic collapse.

[–] yourfavkoreanfemboi@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Being feminine often leads to better treatment in life. For example, the way I was treated during my military conscription was very different from how my peers were treated.

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago

Being femine or just being attractive? Because the halo-effect definitely is real. As Pet Shop Boys said: you don't need to be beautiful but it helps.

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 6 points 1 day ago (19 children)

As someone who's slightly center-right, a significant number of my opinions are unpopular on this platform. But setting politics and social issues aside, I'd say the nuclear bomb of my unpopular opinions is my belief in determinism - and, by extension, my claim that free will is an illusion.

By that, I mean the idea that you could have done otherwise in a given situation is false. If we had a time machine and could replay a moment exactly as it was, you'd make the same choice every single time. Whatever caused you to make that decision the first time would cause you to do it again - without exception.

A related belief of mine is that the sense of self is also an illusion. To me, these are two sides of the same coin. By “self,” I mean the feeling that there’s a subject behind your face, looking out at the world. But that’s just brain chemistry. There’s no point in the brain where it all comes together - no central “you” making decisions. That’s why there’s no free will either - because there’s nothing making the decisions. They’re simply being made.

The illusion comes from the fact of consciousness. The fact of subjective experience. It feels like something to be you, from the inside. There’s qualia to your existence.

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[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Eating meat unnecessarily is immoral.

[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I agree - and I still eat meat. This is the only thing where I'm openly a hypocrite. I put convenence and my own health first even when I know the amound of suffering it causes. This all will chance once lab grown meat becomes a thing.

[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Schools should teach more practical subjects, they're more useful to loads of people and improve engagement. If they have to reduce subjects like history to do that then they should.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (7 children)

History? That's the one you wanna get rid off? Do you just want obedient working bees that easily fall for propaganda and previously used control tactics? 😔

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[–] theskyisfalling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My late teens and early 20s would have been a lot less destructive if I had received even just a small amount of practical financial advice.

Yep, a lot of young people need advice

[–] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I really miss things like shop class existing. I would have thrived in that kinda stuff.

I don't wanna reduce history but more practical skills would be nice. Honestly not really sure what I'd change to bring things like shop class back, but I probably wouldn't want it to be history.

English maybe? Its massively important that kids learn to read and learn from books but I think formal grammar and whatnot have way too much emphasis placed on them. Ability to communicate effectively is affected by grammar, but you can communicate extremely effectively with "wrong" or informal grammar, which people generally intuitively pick up on. I'd rather more emphasis on practical communication- but then I'm not sure that would actually make more space for things like shop class. I dunno 😅

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[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Make housewives (or house husbands, not gonna judge) viable again. Women in the workplace was a crummy deal all things considered.

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 11 points 1 day ago

Replace "Women in the workplace" with "Both parts of the couple" and I will agree: it's a shit deal we got served.

[–] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I think there are too many people on this planet. I see often people stating that this is not the case so this is often something people are vocal about.

Or maybe a more accurate way to briefly describe my point of view. I think there are too many people on this planet based on our current ways of consumption and destruction of resources. There may be an argument for a planet with over 8 billion people with the ability to provide food, shelter and all other aspects of life and social security that does not affect our environment so harshly and negatively but even then I just don't see it.

With so many people, we seem to have lost the ability to our right to roam. Something that I think is important for multiple reasons. People used to migrate for a number of reasons. Seasonal changes, disaster, allowing areas to regrow and repopulate in regards to land and wildlife, travelling to where wildlife is excessive, planned/controlled fires and so many other reasons.

When we settle into these large cities, we lose the ability to roam and ignore all the local environmental benefits of people roaming. The land has to be reshaped into providing for a constant, permanent settlement. The cities require outside resources to grow and maintain itself and it's much harder to see and understand the resource demand when we are no longer directly involved in maintaining the land. We are now focused on maintaining a city just for us humans.

I think this point of view is scary or intimidating to some people because it means giving up many modern conveniences. As if life can not be lived any other way.

I guess I also come from a point of view where I'd rather live a short dangerous life full of wonder compared to a long, sterile life of loneliness and resentful anger. Fuck borders, they are as made up as money, gender and religion. I want to roam and be free.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

With so many people, we seem to have lost the ability to our right to roam.

I have not heard that point of view before. Thank you for sharing, I think it's quite interesting.

I would like to note that even in medieval history, with a much smaller population, roaming resulted in clashes and wars :(

[–] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My perspectives come from the indigenous histories I have learned about through my life. It took many years, multiple countries and surprisingly some YouTube videos for me to get to this point.

Understanding how recent history has affected indigenous populations through colonialism and exploitation has been... Depressing.

I also tend to want to look outside of European history. As a not "white" person who grew up in a "white" country, I've had European history shoved into my life in every way possible. There's a broader world to learn from and appreciate.

I don't think clashes between different peoples can be avoided entirely, but the scale of environmental damage would never be as destructive as what we are witnessing today.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thanks for sharing this idea. I'll have to think about it some further, it's really interesting!

[–] confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If you have interest in indigenous histories, I can recommend the YouTube channel Cogito. A lot of their earlier works give a nice overview of different indigenous cultures.

How potatoes saved the world and How aboriginal Australians made Australia are two videos that really help connect some of my thoughts and experiences on what I had learned about indigenous history, especially in regards to colonialism.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 5 points 1 day ago

Due to low fertility rates the population of earth will soon start to decrease so in that sense this particular issue is going to solve itself. Though that comes with a load of related issues.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

There's no ethical way to kill someone who's done nothing to you and doesn't want to die.

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