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[–] Colalextrast@lemmy.world 3 points 45 minutes ago

Using the word "refused" assigns negative intent to the kid. And maybe the kid did refuse("I don't like those toys"), but I find that unlikely it they started playing with them at daycare. Maybe there are toys at home they prefer. Maybe, as others have stated, its more of an environment thing. Most kids, even when they start to be conversational, lack the vocabulary to fully express themselves. They learn to say what they don't like earlier than saying what they do like, and will often use black/white terminology even when the feeling is more nuanced.

[–] Godort@lemmy.ca 106 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

Setting makes a difference. At daycare, he has other kids to play with and different stuff to drive the trucks over.

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 49 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

So what you are saying is that he doesn't like toys, he likes friends? I can't say I am familiar enough with the concept to provide any meaningful commentary.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 17 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Or he literally wasn't sure how to play with them without an example. I liked construction/farming toys as a kid because I knew how they worked from personal experience. A kid who never saw a truck before wouldn't have anything to emulate, but another kid showing them...

A parent might even present the toy and try to play, but not know how to show it in a way that the kid picks up on.

[–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 13 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

So kids should be made to work in the farms and mines so they have a reference for playtime!

[–] piccolo@sh.itjust.works 9 points 13 hours ago

Theres a reason minecraft is the #1 game for 15 years. They just yearn for the mines.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 5 points 15 hours ago

My First Canary

[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 30 points 19 hours ago

he could also see how much fun the other kids are having with the trucks and decided to try playing with them after all

[–] Grimy@lemmy.world 11 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

No ipads or tvs at the daycare either.

[–] Michal@programming.dev 7 points 19 hours ago

What? It's just like prison!

[–] ByteJunk@lemmy.world 31 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

This is a bit of a self jab. The kid didn't want to play with the toy, he wanted to play with you.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 40 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

That is an assumption.

Assumptions say a lot about the people who have them.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 15 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

As a parent unless you’re wildly abusive your kid absolutely wants to play with you and spend so much time with you, especially very young kids. Most parents barely talk to their kids much less play with them

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 28 points 18 hours ago

While true, a child not playing with a toy with their parent but wanting to play with the same toy with another kid is absolutely a thing that happens.

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 15 hours ago

Some kids certainly do prefer to play alone.

[–] notsosure@sh.itjust.works 9 points 18 hours ago

Doesn’t this tell us more about the parents?