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"But you're gay... why do you like sailing and WWE?"
"Well, I feel like both of those are pretty gay considering the reputation the Navy has and WWE being all sweaty men."
"EXPLAIN FIREARMS THEN."
"Shooty go pew."
"WHAT ARE YOU?!"
"Hungry."
Based off of a real conversation I've had.
"I like you. You're gay, but you're normal"
π« I always feel like my non flamboyant ass is a betrayal to all gays everywhere.
same here! when I came out to my friends, I actually had to convince them that I'm gay because I "didn't act gay"
My late brother used to love to bust my balls, so him being the person he was, would introduce me (us) as "he's the gayest straight man you'll ever meet, and I'm the straightest gay man you'll ever meet". He wasn't flamboyant or anything, and I do enjoy antiques and musicals. He also threatened to haunt my left testicle if I kept having raucous sex without bringing someone home for him. Anyway, thanks for reading. I miss that big, proud asshole.
I'm sorry bro. But I must ask. If he haunting your left ball now?
No, thankfully I could see where his humor was coming from. He was quite lonely after we moved to a rural republican area. So I made it a point to not bring girls home for noisy one night stands, and to spend more time with him and our mutual friends. Getting married and having kids probably helped me settle down. I'm very sad he doesn't get to meet his youngest nephew.
Eta: I did laugh at the question, that's why I like to tell these stories.
You mean you, a gay man, like things that men like?? Next youll tell me everything you own is NOT pink???????
Being bi blew my mind when I finally came out. Dating women is really fun, but then I met a guy who is like...my best friend and crush? Best of both worlds! We share the same hobbies! And hold hands :)
"Are you sure you are gay?"
What is up with flamboyance anyway? Why is it such a (supposedly) common thing? Is there some sort of link or explanation? Not trying to be offensive, just curious
From my observation of my gay friends who are more flamboyant, it was a reaction to coming out of the closet and letting their friends and family know they are gay. They had seen others who were gay behave a certain way, and they embraced that life.
So, it's on purpose? It's, like, an act or something? An adaptation, perhaps? An adoption of mannerisms associated with the group one belongs to and wishes to be associated with (due to said belonging).
For one of my friends, it was like they were acting all the time as a straight person. When they came out they wanted to express their new self.
One of my friends stayed in the closet for years, even when all his friends knew he was gay, and we kept telling him we didn't care. When he came out of the closet, he was over the top flamboyant. After a couple more years, he really toned back on most of the mannerisms. It was like he tried on the flamboyancy and then decided he just liked men, not the act.
I don't believe that's the case for everyone. There were 3 boys in my elementary school that were flamboyant from the earliest I can remember them. They just always had the mannerisms, and other kids talked and wondered even back in fourth grade, "Is he gay?"
Two of them eventually came out as gay. One ended up being straight, he was just very animated and coincidentally spoke with a lisp.
That is to say, some people naturally have a flamboyant energy. Others would have such an energy, but are shamed if they express it. There are simply too many reasons and factors at play to ascribe only one explanation.
I had been told I am straight passing so I started wearing the gayest clothing I could find so people would never confuse me for being straight again.
Shout out to Hyena Agenda and Nomad Complex for making the best and gayest shirts.
I vastly prefer OP's type. Flamboyant gay people are too high maintenance.
source: years of doing theatre.
Not gay myself, but uh, honestly most firing ranges and shooty shoot drill courses are also usually chalk full of sweaty men.
... who are... often enjoying the experience a biiiit too enthusiastically.
But yeah... I've been friends with a good number of gay dudes (one later transitioned), and ... they are some of the most non flamboyant, non dramatic people I've ever known.
I remember back in the early 2010's, a good number of other people I knew just literally not believing me when them being gay would come up in conversation... whole lotta people just error out, does not compute, 'they're not gay, they're normal!'.
'They are gay, and they are normal.'
-blank stare-
Hooray for growing up with a bunch of ignorant white trash hicks.
What about WWE wouldn't a gay man love?
The women, but we don't talk about those.
also str8 people when they meet a flamboyant straight dude hahaha
Femme lesbians confuse these dorks but we can identify each other easily enough. I say this as if my fashion choices, as a femme lesbian, don't get me called a dyke on the street fairly often.
"but you have long hair!" yeah bitch it's so my girlfriend can pull it π
(i don't have a girlfriend. pray for me pls)
I believe in you, you got this π
Honestly, I've gotten many more "You don't seem bi" from gay men than any other demographic.