This advice is just cruel and it usually comes from drinkers who swear they don’t have any problem. I’ll spare you the novel— but be the most wary of those people especially if they’re “friends”. They care more about having a drinking buddy when it suits them than for your wellbeing.
Stop Drinking
This is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking. It is also a place for non drinkers to discuss and share.
We welcome anyone who wishes to join in by asking for advice, sharing our experiences and stories, or just encouraging someone who is trying to quit or cut down.
Please post only when sober; you’re welcome to read in the meanwhile.
My favourite response to that is "why are you so keen to get me to do something I don't want to do?"
Kudos for recognizing that it's just not a possibility for you. I think the false belief that we could "just have a few" has been harmful and defeating to a lot of folks like us.
“The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker.
Same energy as "Don't be so sensitive". One ruined my childhood, the other one social gatherings as an adult.