I buy myself flowers all the time. Very few things are as effective at improving my mood just by being around me. Being surrounded by flowers all the time does not make gifted flowers any less special, and it's a cheat code to my heart that anyone can exploit.
this post was submitted on 14 Sep 2025
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Not really, no. It's a "it's the thought that counts" kind of gift for me (and it shows not a lot of thought). If you want to get me a gift, a nice tea, an interesting scarf, a good book you read and want to share ... that kind of thing is more my kind of vibe.
This is my answer too.
The only time a man gave me flowers, it was a terrible man, and he was doing terrible things.
Small gifts that are thoughtful and personal go a really long way. My husband finally understands I don't like mass produced dust collectors, and has switched to finding local made dust collectors lol he'll get there eventually.
In light of your husband's poor gift giving skills, and assuming he's not a terrible man, would you not prefer he get you flowers? Or did the first guy ruin flowers for you?
I didn't like flowers for a long time and I didn't really understand why. Then one day my husband bought me wood flowers and I loved them. Why? It didn't give me something to clean up later. I'm so lazy 😂
It's valid! It's a little gift with no additional chores
Except some occasional, very quick dusting.
I don't have wood flowers, but I have silk ones. They need a quick run over with a duster about once a quarter.
They're low effort I approve
I kinda like them but I'm not crazy about them. I'd rather have something I can keep or a donation to a charity. Plus they're not good for the environment
I'm a trans woman and I've only been in one relationship, which is long-distance, so I've never actually gotten flowers as a gift before. They always went to my mom. So now I bug my boyfriend about it, tell him every so often that once we're in the same US State together, instead of on opposite coasts, that I really want him to buy me some one day.
flower delivery services totally exist btw, I've bought flowers for people in other states more than once 😅
I like my flowers the same way I like my birds - outside, in their natural habitat, where I can enjoy looking at them and not have to take care of them in any way.
Blankets. For the price of a bouquet you can her a decent blanket and you can never have too many blankets.
Not really. In the last few years, I've really gotten into Lego plants. I have the succulents lego set and recently got the Japanese maple tree lego set. Just gotta find time to build them. I'm terrible with real flowers.
I absolutely love getting flowers as a gift. However, I also just really love flowers in general so I’m probably biased.
I buy myself flowers a lot because I love walking into the dining room and the table has a beautiful vase of flowers. It makes me happy.
Nope, I'd rather go for a walk with someone who enjoys my company (with the potential to see flowers that are still attached to the ground).
Tldr; I'd prefer the gift of time.
No, I dislike both knowing that they are dying and also watching them die. Give me fudge instead please. Or a package of unusual teas.
If the flowers come with a bunch of roots so I can pop them in the ground or in a planter then, yes! I have a plant problem, in that I love them, and apparently have a knack with them. I routinely have to adopt them out because I propagate them until my partner gently suggests we may have plenty of pothos already lol
I enjoy them yea
I don't mind flowers but for the kind of price and gift that it is I would prefer something like a nice candle or a diffuser.
No but yes.
I don't like flowers, they just die in a week. I would rather have chocolate or teas than flowers, but I would rather be given flowers.
Flowers are the woman gift. As a little baby trans woman, flowers as a gift is worth it even if just for the validation alone.
In terms of classic romantic gifts, I would rather get chocolate or (non-alcoholic) wine.
I love plastic plants though. Green ones, not necessarily flowers.