Raw is not the way most people eat rice, so it makes sense that one would assume it's cooked. If I got raw rice with my curry, I would indeed be irritated and rightfully so. Jalapeños are commonly consumed in a variety of preparations, fresh/raw being amongst those, and it's not unreasonable to expect them fresh if they're not explicitly labeled "pickled" by the restaurant.

Your other example, of flour and bread, is exactly what OP means. Cucumbers and pickles are different, and not interchangeable. Flour and bread are different, and not interchangeable. They are prepared differently and serve different culinary purposes.

I vote we call fresh jalapeños "jalapeños" and pickled "jalapickles". In the meantime, at least as far as grocery delivery is concerned, OP should put in the notes that they don't want picked jalapeños, even as a substitute. Restaurants should have clearer labels; random delivery person can't be expected to know your preference unless you explicitly tell them, IMO.

If I order jalapeños on nachos, I expect them to be pickled.

And you're free to be disgustingly wrong in your preferences!

My wife does that since she prefers fresh as well, and it's kind of a mixed bag what you're gonna get. It's surprising to see how many people don't know the difference.

fermented... carrot, onion, and garlic

That's the way I knew them from childhood. Still bland, still disgusting. The loss of the actual jalapeño's substance is huge, even if you add in other flavors with it to make it complex. I, with few exceptions, don't like pickled foods. I also avoid the overpowering condiments. I like to taste the actual foods, not throw something on top that becomes all I can taste.

I find that it does, but likely because, as the dyslexic said, the pith has the heat, and that always seems to be a victim of the picklers. The only time I find jalapickles to still be hot is if the juice of some hotter substance, like a habañero, gets added into the juice.

Trim out the white pulp, that’s the heat…