happy for you man

precisely! to date lemmy had been the most progressive and respectable toward human dignity community i have followed, but that facade has dropped pretty quickly with this turn :(

Yeah, I've seen ignorant takes about that on tumblr too, from accounts I thought knew better. Genuinely disappointing to see.

Fortunately, that was always the point. The hypothetical is stupid and makes no sense. But it really trips men up and exposes them as they rush to say "not all men" in a different way.

thanks for your kind words! and you are correct; i am using strong language there that should not be applied literally, though i do stand by the sentiment.

to be more precise, “There is a time and place for tone policing and incredible care should be taken that it is not done to silence or speak over any person’s expression of lived experience, so as not to discourage people who have found the courage to speak up.”

💙🦈💙

Absolutely not.

The people “speaking out against the generalizations” need to find their own space and time to do so, not to do it in direct replies to women who are speaking up about a very personal and invasive topic.

It’s an exact parallel to those who screamed “All Lives Matter” in response to BLM.

There are inumerable comment sections for men to explore and express the negative qualities of the patriarchy in their lives, !mensliberation@lemmy.ca being one I have seen that seems positive. But that space is not to be held the moment and place women begin to talk about their own experiences.

Yes! In several aspects, I appreciate the progressive nature of the community here. However, the predominantly male composition of the community is a significant drawback. There is a noticeable lack of maningful exposure to even basic feminist theory compared to Marxist, environmental, racial, or other left-leaning theories. It is my hope that we, as a community, can acknowledge this deficiency and make efforts to address it, as recent events have shown that the status quo is doing nothing but harm.

i wont link directly, but see my comment history i call out a few

—disclaimer do not harrass or brigade—

edit fine since you all won’t do me the decency of clicking on my name before you spam “doubt”

do not harrass or brigade, mods please just remove this comment if people start being bad

• https://lemmy.world/comment/9998097
• https://lemmy.cafe/comment/5836925
• https://lemmy.world/comment/10003959

among others that have been erased because women are being bullied into deleting threads and entire accounts.

shoutout to blahaj and the absolute queens who run it 💆‍♀️🙂‍↕️

Okay very basically this whole thing started with a hypothetical posed to a bunch of women about which they would rather run into while alone in the woods; A random man, or a bear. A lot of women chose the bear. Reasons varied from "The worst the bear will do is kill me," to "At least I know the bear wants to kill me," with a general theme seeming to be that whatever tangible threat the bear posed was preferable to the uncertainty of wondering whether or not a random man would assault them.

The poster's stated goal with the hypothetical was to get men to think about why the women were choosing the bear. Instead a lot of guys took it as a personal attack, like they were being punished for the actions of other men. Many started attacking the question, insisting that bears are way more dangerous than virtually any man. This led to a lot of dismissive responses of the criticism like "This is why women choose the bear," or talking about women's safety being more important than men's feelings.

I'm simplifying a lot but that's the basic gist of it.

Men reacting to intentionally inflammatory bear meme is an affront to women apparently