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Anon visits a coworker (sh.itjust.works)
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[-] FierroGamer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

I feel like the idea that women are otherworldly creatures instead of people and seeing someone being nice to their partner as "the man having tamed a female and convinced her to treat him well" has a lot to do with his problem.

I hate how much that is preserved socially, there's no good reason why that hasn't gone away at least a decade or two ago.

[-] chaosppe@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Totally agree. I've been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it most definitely didnt involve me trying to tame her 🤣

It was just luck to meet. We both liked each other. That's literally it.

[-] ra1d3n@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

The important feat is making yourself into a person that the other person would like to have in their life and makes their life better.

[-] FierroGamer@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah, seeing them as a person seems like a crucial part in that equation.

[-] GBU_28@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

You started with "pspspspsps" and some snacks and you know it

[-] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 year ago

Don't forget the flowers

[-] Maalus@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

It's learned helplessness. Once they get rejected 15 times in a row for being a weirdo or something similar, they start to think in that instead of either reflecting back on the experience and trying to be better, or looking elsewhere.

[-] umbrella@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

well yeah i get how you can start doubting yourself after that. sad as fuck.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Simply going from zero self improvement to nonzero may not be enough. That’s why we call a situation like this a hole. A person in a hole needs to climb to get to ground level.

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