Turns out it was Death Grips.

Is this sort of thing what you normally talk to your therapist about? Must be nice to have so few troubles.

I'm not saying trans rights are unrelated to feminism.

I'm saying that transphobic rhetoric has been shoehorned into this cause and has nothing to do with abstaining from PiV sex for the safety and respect of ovulating people.

Also you may not be aware of how conservative South Korea is. There probably are more than a few transphobic 4b South Koreans as feminism as a movement is still newer there.

In 'western' countries, radical feminism (with all its flaws) was an integral part of the cultural/philosophical journey into the 3rd wave and intersectional feminism as we know it today.

It would be really nice if the gender critical terf bullshit could be skipped when other cultures journey into exploring feminism, but as conservative culture by definition has such deeply ingrained bigotry towards minorities, it might sadly just be inevitable.

I think it might be a bit like antinatalism, where a lot of people simply haven't heard of it (or have heard stupid shit about it and discounted it), but have come to the same conclusions independently and just haven't felt the need to seek out likeminded comunities or be vocal about it to others.

If your country is banning abortion and restricting contraceptives, it's not transphobic to avoid sex and intimate relationships with folk who could impregnate you.

Please just take a moment to think it through.

If you like somebody with opposed genitalia to yours and your country has banned abortion and restricted contraception- it is really not respectful (or sane!) to put one of your lives on the line for PiV sex with them.

And just so we are completely clear about this: Trans men are men and trans women are women. Everyone should get to decide for themselves who they do and do not sleep with, and they should respect their potential partners wishes either way.

Ffs, you can do 4b without being transphobic.

Just because some 4b assholes with a website have written a transphobic clause in their manifesto, doesn't mean they speak for all 4b followers.

Stop shitting all over this movement because you've found somebody in it with an awful take on an unrelated matter.

Not having sex or relationships with folk who can impregnate you is sensible when your country is about to ban abortion and restrict contraceptive access.

Any death metal fans able to explain why I'm making the association between the hat and lolly costume and the music genre?

BLM marches and activism happened all over the world because of "keyboard warriors" spreading the word.

What the fuck is that?

I stacked it on the kerb coming back from the shop the other day and both my knees are now bruised to fuck and have started creaking when I go to stand up. It's taken my all not to refer to the incident as my having 'had a fall' too, for some reason.

I was hoping to at least get past my (current) mid thirties before the knee pain and geriatric language started creeping in.

Look up trans healthcare rights in the UK. Transphobia is actively being promoted by our government based on shitty unfounded but politically backed science like the Cass report.

And while the UK is probably one of the safest places in the world to be gay, there is still homophobia. If you're visibly queer and ever have to rely on healthcare services, you will most likely experience it.

Some areas in the UK have drastically better autism and adhd services than others. Like day and night drastically.

From memory, and sorry to direct you back there, Reddit's UK autism and adhd boards did have some resources on this, and will probably have enough of a user base to be able to give you a good idea of where is currently good or bad.

Cheltenham is probably still really good for both NHS and charity/independent adhd, autism and mental health services for both kids and adults- but my information on the area is now nearly 5 years old, so you will have to look it up for yourself.

And I can only speak for NHS adult adhd, autism and MH services in North London, but they're next to non existent here and will, from experience, very likely be actively detrimental when you are able to access anything.

Is your kid neurotypical? If so it's going to be much easier for you to move almost anywhere in the UK.

If not, and/or if you can afford it, look into smaller private schools with lots of extra curricular activities going on. With the smaller class sizes, education and potential for assimilating with peers will be drastically improved for your kid, and you will have a much easier time meeting other parents and forming a community too.

Otherwise state schools with lots of arts and sciences funding are probably your best bet, so look into that, find a good one and try to move to their catchment area.

Also if you or your kid have any mental/health issues, get health insurance. NHS waiting lists are very long and the quality of service is often poor, especially for people in vulnerable situations and for visibly queer/trans/neurodiverse female presenting/bodied folk. Honestly, just get health insurance anyway if you can afford it, it should be cheaper here than in the US at least.

Disclaimer: I'm neither a parent nor an American in the UK, but I am from here and went to a lot of schools as a kid (moved a lot) and I am queer.