[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 9 points 11 months ago

Not anymore. Thank you nutrionist Dogg

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 21 points 1 year ago

I know, we're both predisposed to alcoholism, we've both had family die to it. I've struggled with it a little bit myself in my younger years. I know that if she chooses alcohol over us then there's nothing I can do about it. And honestly it's right at that point now. I love her and I always want to be there for her, but if she pushes me away I...I mean I know I deserve better and I know I can't live like that but I'm just going to do my damndest for as long as I can. She'd do the same for me.

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago

Oh duh, thank you, I can't believe I didn't think of that myself sooner. Yeah maybe I'll go there too. Though I haven't even opened that since they killed RiF

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago

Yeah I've tried directing her to the /stopdrinking community but she doesn't want to do that. She's had some bad experiences with people online. And I guess people in general. She does like to read though, maybe if it's a book she'd be more open to it, thank you

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

Thank you very much, I wasn't aware of the distinction, I'll look into that. I have been debating calling the national alcohol abuse hotline myself and just seeing if they can give advice on how to deal with this myself.

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 14 points 1 year ago

I do know the satanic temple yeah, neither of us are religious. She might actually be a bit jazzed if it's from there honestly, thank you, I'll look into it

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago

That was my move tonight yeah. I'm just looking for help on what to do moving forward. I had issues with alcohol myself when I was in my early 20s so I can empathize with what she's going through, and I got through it, so she can too

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My fiance has been struggling a lot lately with this and it's taking a toll on me. I'm doing all I can and all I know how to do but it's getting really hard and exhausting to deal with the constant cycle of abuse and then apology and then abuse and then apology over and over and over again for months. Usually day by day. I have convinced her to go to a counselor for help and she has an appointment set and seemed willing but she has kept up the cycle of drinking and I'm afraid she'll just ignore it or pretend to go. If anyone has experience helping a loved one through overcome this I would appreciate the help. She is an absolutely wonderful person when she is sober and I love her with all my heart but I'm not sure what else I can do and I don't want the rest of my life to consist of this.

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Tutorials are designed for the dumbest person out there who has zero idea what they're doing. So in this case someone who has never driven a car or played a racing game before. If a tutorial told you "this works like the last game, do the same" it's obviously bad design. Yeah that's a super small subset of the people playing the game but it's better to overexplain than underexplain. But in this case yeah they should 100% just have a separate tutorial mode section for people who need it, having that REQUIRED in a racing game is ridiculous. I haven't played racing games in years but last I remember that's what used to be the norm.

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is a non autistic neurotypical thing to do too. If you get someone who is bitching at you saying an occasional 5 second aside showing that you relate to what they're saying, they're just an asshole, and they're in the wrong.

I mean if you're doing every other sentence, then yeah, that's a bit much. But now and then is expected and someone who wants a half hour of center stage quiet from the audience should find a stage and a brick wall

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I thought you were talking about mobile games or something locked behind a paywall before I read further and realized you're mad that multi-player is "locked" behind someone completing a tutorial. I haven't played either of the two games you mentioned by name but I would imagine that they are complicated/unique enough where a tutorial is warranted. It's kind of annoying if you just want to hop in and go, sure, but if "most of the fucking game" content consists of the beginning tutorial then you bought the wrong game to begin with.

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 13 points 1 year ago

I know a fair few Republicans have also said they wanted this. So I fully expect them to oppose this on the basis of "if a dem proposed it, it must be SATANISM".

[-] Flickerby@lemm.ee 11 points 1 year ago

Fully (or at least more) customisable controller settings. It's not difficult. Let me bind what controls I want to what button I want. And adjust the stick dead zone, god damn. Why are you giving me pre set control schemes when we've had fully customizable controls figured out for decades? Fuck you game

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