Right... and it's unrelated to the ungodly amount of furries on the Fediverse in general.

Etienne's new pet looks closer to home!
yes, this is meant to be a btd6 reference

Your community, as in the community you moderates? Yeah it makes sense.

From what I've heard, moderators (and admins probably) can see deleted posts, as this scenario did happen to my post in the communities I moderate. Fortunately, only moderators, admins, or anyone with your posts' link before it was deleted could potentially see your deleted posts.

That's why it's recommended that you edit your post title, description, and url/images to "deleted by creator" or similar when deleting your posts, as moderators can't undo edits.

It doesn't matter if you're subscribed to !memes@lemmy.ml (and !196@lemmy.blahaj.zone for good measure).

Nah, Prince of Darkness is better than Archmage

...oh wait, wrong game

Basically phone speakers at home, earbuds while away. As basic as you can get.

If your culture is transphobic, you are allowed to just ignore or reject the bigoted parts (or any other parts you have no interest in) and be the woman you want to be (and are).

I know, but... idk... it still feels wrong. I've been taught for a very long time that trans people have no place in my culture, and that it is my duty to uphold my masculinity. I know I'm wrong, but it's really hard to deprogram yourself after years of being taught.

I guess more exposure to trans culture will help, but it's hard when even interacting with the trans community feels wrong. Maybe you know a way to make it easier?

But, I'll be honest, my biggest problem right now is just how much I've tried to seek out transphobic content lately, it's almost like a form of self harm. It's even worse when I internalized and accepted the transphobic things I've found.

Of course, it's harmful, and I've tried my best to stop myself from looking at transphobic content. But, in a way, I keep coming back for no reason.

I just wanted a way to stop myself from thinking and accepting transphobic stuff within. Maybe you know a way to help me stop looking at transphobic content as a form of self harm?

This only applies if you use lemmy from the website. If you use mobile apps such as Jerboa, Liftoff, or Mlem, the way to unblock would be different.

Generally, it's in the settings, at least it is on Liftoff. I couldn't find it on Jerboa (maybe it isn't available yet?). I guess you can try from the website.

I'm not exactly the oldest fur around, but I've been a furry for a long time and there's many advice I could've given to younger me.

I have a few, but it mostly boils down to: don't make being a furry a big deal. Just relax.

More specifically:

• Being a furry is just a hobby. You don't need to "come out" as a furry or tell anyone. And in most cases, there's nothing wrong with your friends knowing that you're a furry, it's not a shameful secret you need to hide as if it's a fetish (just don't let your future employers know). Use a furry wallpaper or furry profile picture if you want to and where it's appropriate. Of course, with furries being generally seen in negative lights, some caution need to be exercised, and some people may treat you being a furry very badly. Use your own judgement, but for the most part, it's less of a big deal than I expected.
• Don't worry about all the hatred. Younger me have seen so many furry hate comments, especially around the "gamers vs furries" time, that she wanted to quit the fandom out of fear. But really, all those hate comments are mostly made by children trying to look cool by attacking a punching bag. It's mostly empty threats. Just ignore the haters and trolls making fun of you for being a furry and bee yourself. Don't let fear consume you.
• Don't worry about how unique your fursona is. Younger me was afraid that her fursona is not unique enough or that someone might have a similar looking fursona, but I don't care now. Your fursona should reflect what you like, not what is the most unique. If you'd prefer a vanilla looking fursona, that's fine. If you'd like your fursona to be a polar bear with purely white fur, go ahead. You don't need to add additional pattern to make it more stand out, unless that's really what you want.
• Fursona can be changed anytime, so don't worry about picking the wrong one. Explore around and try out fursona designs you'd like. If you already have a fursona but want to change it, that's fine. But be aware that any art or fursuits made for your old fursona won't magically change to your new ones, so do take deep consideration about your fursona before making an expensive art commission or a fursuit.

That's all I can say for now.

Also, on every instance, there is a link called 'instance'. It contains information about which lemmy instance is federated and banned by your instance.

Buying tail like the ones used by furries are too expensive for me-- even more so for actual working prosthetics. And I feel uncomfortable even thinking about buying something like that, I just feel like that takes the step too far, like I'm commiting to buy an expensive tail over an intrusive delusion or something.

I also feel wrong. I'm scared to take the leap to explore more, idk why maybe it's just anxiety, but it feels wrong. I've been thinking about faking a tail using cloth, but I'm scared it won't feel the same as a real tail.

I'm afraid, maybe due to how most people see us as wrong, cringe comps, you know how it is. Not to mention that I'm afraid that I'm actually not otherkin or want a tail, especially since I've seen many otherkin sort of annoyed at people mistakenly thinking or faking they're one. I'm scared that having a tail wouldn't feel as nice as I'd hope for.

On a lighter note, my experiences with my tail is mostly rare but intrusive thoughts, kinda like how I feel about my lack of breasts as a trans girl. Still, I'd love to have a tail, especially if I can also have fur, animal ears, snout, etc.

Since my type is an anthro raccoon, I've also been considering to buy a fursuit. But if I can't even afford a tail, I probably wouldn't afford a fursuit either, not to mention it's probably hard to bring a fursuit everywhere.

Does the mod log only log activities from a specific instance visited, your instance, or all federated instances.

Cause I've seen way more activities in the modlist than possible on my small instance, not to mention almost all the removes are from communities outside of my instance.