[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

How I made the decision: asked myself do I want to have children because that is what I want or because that is what is expected/wanted by others? For me, it was the latter. I have been incredibly happy with the decision, though I'm also incredibly fortunate and privileged to be in the spot my partner and I are in.

My partner and I had the luxury of me being in grad school as the "excuse" for why we hadn't had kids. Then student loans. But at a certain point that was unfair to us and our parents. My partner is an only child so her parents won't have grandkids. I have a brother who has kids.

Avoiding uncomfortable conversations and putting the wants of other people before yours is something we all do. However, doing that with bringing a whole living being is, in my opinion, a recipe for fucking disaster.

If you want kids because you want to, then you should. If you don't want kids because you don't, then you shouldn't. If your partner is on a different wavelength, you need to have a very adult conversation. The decision to bring a life into this world (especially at this point) is huge. This is also not a conversation to convince the other person you're right (this goes for your partner too).

I hope you are able to make this decision in a way that fits best for you.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Working out at the gym to fit my underwear

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I transitioned from an elliptical to the treadmill. Knees are in rough shape and it took about 4 weeks for them to get sore after pushing a little too quick and not getting proper rest. Probably wasn't doing enough stretching either. Inside of my knee is where it hurt so don't think it was an IT band issue.

Listened to my body, that's the fitness victory. Knee feels better 7 days since my last run and just in time to set off of a thru hike of the Uinta Highline Trail on Sunday. Hella excited for the adventure too!

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I call it my God hole.

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[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago

I did a practicum in a federal prison for a year and somehow my supervisor and I got onto the topic of bathroom use (probably just talking about the reality of incarcerated live). I'll never forget it because it was such a candid moment for him when he said: real thugs sit. Nothing else added, just let it be said like that. People that don't clean up after themselves definitely grinds my gears.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

What kind of damned animal doesn't rinse their dishes after washing them with soap?! I refuse to accept there are people out there doing this and if there are: I am not mad, I am just deeply disappointed in you.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Same here, it's been a fun experience.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago

People are disagreeing with you, not shunning you. People disagreeing with you is the consequence. That is all that is happening.

You came to a political thread and when people disagree with you, you claim your being shunned. Self reflect on that. Or don't. I don't give a shit what you do.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago

So, you are saying these things are happening yet here you are speaking you opinion. You get to disagree with people just as people get to disagree with you. Say what you want, but understand there are consequences and you don't get to dictate what those are if they make you feel bad.

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

The office, parks and rec, schitts Creek, letterkenny, always sunny, veep, and silicon valley.

I think that about covers it.

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Howdy! Figured I would just put this here quick to start contributing. I'm hoping this place can get as popping as r/ultralight.

Anywho, I have the vast majority of my menu planned out but have a couple of holes to fill in. My partner and I are planning to do it in 8 days but will see if we can actually get it done in 7 (or take a day for just lounging in the middle of nowhere and use the full 8 days). It's going to be a bit of food to carry but I'm trying to focus on keeping calories per ounce above 130 averaged over the day. I used to through in a complete cookie, but stopped because of how much gas they gave me. It was actually pretty uncomfortable.

I am wondering if anyone here has tried the green belly meals-2-go and if so how are they? Or if taking an extra Snickers bar and calling it good would make more sense. Thanks in advance!

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

To add another part on from another clinical psychologist/therapist: it seems like sometimes just assuming what the person is looking for validation or help can cause some problems one way or the other. Sometimes just asking directly what they are looking for is worthwhile. It can be a beneficial exercise in clarifying expectations and takes out chance for a "wrong" (used VERY loosely) choice of approach or possibly missed signals. Personally and anecdotally, it seems to bring more awareness into the equation for everyone involved overtime (if doing so with a partner/friend/family member/etc.).

[-] Jack_of_all_derps@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago

One of those disgusting revenge porn websites, I don't know.

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