Israel the nation, government and military is an apartheid state currently committing genocide. This statement passes no judgement on the vast majority of the Israeli people and especially no judgement on Judaism and Jewish people as a whole.
Anyone trying to conflate the two are just trying to apologize for genocide.
You can not have sex with your employee or employer. The power dynamic ensures it can never be totally equal and there will always be some duress. If someone holds the power over your finances including your health insurance, saying No is never that simple.