I believe Summer Eternal is a Consumer co-op, isn't it? Or if not looks very like it.

Finally showing themselves for what they really are.

No. However, honestly, sharing your concerns with your community and maybe if you can afford it both monetarily and in time then therapy can be a great help if you aren't getting it already.

Finding ways to help others and build skills you and others will need to survive can also help, joy comes from learning and being of service to others often.

Journalling out your thoughts and feelings are a great way of offloading feelings too and that way doesn't (potentially) hurt others.

Hope you continue to be okay in this hellscape of a world we all find ourselves in currently.

What I'm saying is that it's no less a white supremacist network than anywhere else and I'm on an instance that has a zero tolerance policy for it. Yet people still show who they are even on 'good' instances that they don't (yet) block all too often, even and especially admins.

Okidoke, hope you have a pleasant life and you never get upset about the way folks talk to you about anything or refer to you.

Wow, the award for quickest turnaround for proving the point goes to....

It always confuses me when people say 'offend' people, because usually it is not offense they feel etc.

Well, that's not a very fair way of treating/thinking of people, some people are going to be hurt or upset by certain things and it's better to understand that we all have emotions and they are not pointless just because you see no value in them i.e. 'illogical'. It's better to work together and find ways of communicating that aren't genuinely hurtful ioo.

So like, just because you 'studied' linguistics you think that makes you an expert on how language should always be used or that people should not feel a certain way about language just because you say so?

That's not exactly a compelling argument.

Language is always going to carry certain meanings for some folks and we do a disservice to people by ignoring that, we all have our own personal lexicons/semantic meanings to a degree and that will likely never change, we do best by understanding this and working together to understand and accept when certain language can be hurtful and thus find ways of talking that do work for each other.

I feel that's a better way of being than talking down to someone like you just did and telling them that how they feel about it doesn't matter and they should just get with the program, which is never going to work.

Okay, but not everybody is going to be comfortable with it and so are you saying you would not change your speech for them?

Also which country?

A trans femme is someone who tries to make themselves look more 'femme' often through taking estrogen etc, it can refer to trans women as well but also refers to those who don't completely identify or at all as a woman, see nonbinary folks for example. It's kind of a catch all term.

Who said anything bout language policing? I was merely saying for myself. I think passing is a pointless binary concept and not even all cis women 'pass'. So I'm not all that interested in passing 100%, just being happy to be me.

In what context(s)?

A lot of trans femmes myself included cannot see 'guys' as gender neutral no matter how hard we try and so do not like it.