[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 14 points 1 year ago

Well here's my worst: I relapsed after having dropped my tolerance and the EMTs scraped me out of a ditch and took me to my job, although thank God I don't work in the ED. Apparently I said something to the effect of "just let me die" which wound up getting me a babysitter (suicidaldrunksitter?) and wound up having to talk to a pgy-2 who very clearly (and nervously) recognized me. Fortunately my hospital is relatively with it on the evidence-based-practice even in behavioral health so he knew to wait until I was sober again to do a full assessment, because that would've been a whole week down the drain in grippy sock jail.

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 38 points 1 year ago

I think polyamory is an immutable part of someone's sexual orientation as much as the gender preference spectrum (homo/heterosexual) and the intensity/situationalness (ace/gray-ace/demi). I think some people just naturally see sex and intimate relationships as something they can do openly with multiple people and some people just don't. I think it will become more acceptable for the people who see sex that way to find each other and express their love that way, the same as with all the other sexual relationships between consenting adults are becoming more acceptable. But the same way it would be silly to say we'll all be homosexual eventually I don't think we'll all be poly someday either.

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 28 points 1 year ago

Addictions often stem from a lack of stimulating activities or connection to others. The recent retirement supports this, as he would have lost both at that time. So he needs to get into some hobby that's less likely to leave him homeless, but that is gonna fill those needs. You gotta find him somewhere to go that's outside the house that he can:

  1. mostly rest/vegetate
  2. occasionally get rewarded
  3. do either alone or with a trusted friend
  4. consume mind altering substances while vegetating (usually alcohol)

With all this in mind I now realize why there's so many jokes about old dudes fishing. Do with that what you will.

But yeah. You should start some kind of multi generational hobby club for how to sit around and all be dudes together. There's probably some younger men out there who missed that part during COVID too so like. And figure out some activity that's not going to be horribly boring to the younger adults that won't be horribly overstimulating to the older adults.

I've always thought the answer to the whole men's mental health crisis we're seeing today (I work in inpatient mental health) was getting men to connect better with each other in addition to women. A lot of guys say they weren't taught to talk about their feelings which means not only are they losing a lot of opportunity for emotional validation, but they're losing that validation from where it would matter most; the people most like them. I say this because a bunch of young male patients keep asking me for life advice and I'm like bruh we both know nothing I say is gonna make a lick of sense I wasn't raised in that box.

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[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Not true! You also have to be significantly lucky. I've met plenty of egocentric psychopaths who are stuck in small-time hustles and utterly pissed about it.

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago

In my defense, not seeing any buildings bigger than a barn until you're about ten, and not many more until 16 then going to NYC on a girl scout trip did almost cause a panic attack.

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 year ago

Oh my algorithm is FUCKED because I'm so insanely curious.

So first of all I'm always googling stuff from medical procedures to culture and liguistics. That's part of how I found out that apparently black Americans will sometimes get a nose job to confirm better to western beauty standards.

Second of all, I will click on everything that I can't identify, which often turn out to be kitchen implements or specialized hobby equipment. One time I clicked on some weird looking shoes, shortly followed by some bizarre looking amorphous plastic things which turned out to be special climbing shoes and screw-in footholds, respectively.

So anyway, that's the story of how Google adsense thinks I'm an African American woman who hates her nose but is also extremely passionate about indoor climbing (none of this is even remotely true).

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago

So I work 12 but because I'm a night nurse a lot of the time it's just being there and monitoring, then occasionally doing something if the monitoring indicates the need. And particularly in psychiatry, a lot of the monitoring is passive. Sure I'll go personally check on people every few hours (the techs do 15 minute checks) but a lot of my monitoring is poking my head out of the nursing station to whisper-yell "WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT NOISE" or jumping up when the floorstaff move too fast (some of our security who know me well will actually frantically gesture at me to sit the fuck back down they're just showing their buddy a meme they got excited about).

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 year ago

How is his chin that small even WITH a beard? Is that the real reason incels idolize him? I know they've got lots of weird chin issues is he like their Helen Keller? Chinless success story?

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I'm a nurse and we were taught to educate patients at the fifth grade level as well. Believe it or not, the sex ed level is even lower! The average American seems to struggle with such topics as "it's bad to touch or be touched when the person being touched doesn't like it" and "don't put random household objects in your butthole."

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Anyway my patient had bedbugs how'd y'all's weekend go?

(Works best for fleas since they're usually a summer pest, when that 90° weather is avaliable, but works for other things if the opportunity arises.

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It just feels kind of gross having parts of me hanging out on the internet for too long. Like I haven't been able to wash my hands/face for a while. I do it manually occasionally, but I have to block off a morning or evening for it now when I used to be able to do it with a couple mouse clicks then go off to take a shit or w/e.

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This is it 500%.

They needed to give people something to fight about.

I'm not even sure if I'm trans and I'm already prepping to fight people for my own existence because I know somebody somewhere needs to make my body evil so other people stop asking why they take all the money.

Fighting the moral existence of me and my body are just the next excuse for why you should give somebody who already has more money than God even more power and control (usually in the way of money).

Gotta fight me. How dare I not want to have the tits or uterus that grew on me. And to stop me from doing that you just have to give this other dude more money and more legislative control. You just have to stop asking for fair wages or safe working environments. Give this rando the power to tell you you're a stupid poor who deserves to toil in pain and misery and he'll save you from the fact that I just kinda personally don't like having tiddies.

And the absolute bestest way to tell people I'm evil? Tell them I'll tell their kids their bodies aren't evil. Because that's the truth. If some kid asks me if it's ok that they don't wanna have tits I'll tell them that's fine. And the ONLY thing worse than my body being evil is me telling your kid it's ok for their body to be evil too.

It doesn't matter that I'll tell them to experiment with non-permanent things first and get their head on straight before they decide their body ain't right. It doesn't matter that I'll ask them to examine their viewpoints on what gender even means before they make that decision. Hell I'd even tell a kid to make sure they're not mistaking fat-shame for gender dysphoria. I would literally tell them to evaluate any other option before permanent body modification.

But the people telling girls they aren't skinny enough but also their tits aren't big enough and boys they aren't skinny enough but also their muscles aren't big enough are totally NOT the problem here.

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If this turns out to be good I'm gonna keep it in my back pocket for the next time I have a psych patient who really likes to creatively write (...and is also not actively detached from reality LOL)

Roll a 6-sided die 12 times

This is the pixelfed album.

This is the google sheet (idk how else to make a set of 6 tables vision-impairment friendly)

  • What's your theme?
  • What's your plot?
  • Who's your hero?
  • Who's your villain?
  • Who's your side character?
  • What's your wild card?
  • ...what're you doing with it?
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I told chat GPT to give me some prompts to help people with emotional processing/expression, and to get pretty weird/quirky, so some of them are kinda out there. I want that weird, stimulating creativity, but I'd like some help filtering out undesirable content/general bad vibes. Some of them also get a little trite, repetitive, or even just nonsensical, so it helps to filter those out as well.

There's a lot of them, but I told it to shuffle them for every person, so even if you just rate the first five or so it gives you it should help. My end goal is to narrow down to about 1/4 - 1/2 of each, so if you rate however many you do at about an 1/3 bad, 1/3 ok, and 1/3 good, I should eventually get a pretty solid list.

There's so many because I'm thinking about offering a daily challenge of one of each, and I want there to be almost no chance a patient will see the same one twice (I just feel like that would be really disheartening for someone stuck inpatient for a long time).

Feel free to share this around in any creative or mental health circles you run in!

[-] agertudici@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Well. There are some jobs that like. Aren't actually real. Instagram influencers for instance. You don't need somebody wiggling their ass or abs at you and telling you their favorite cereal flavor if the goal is just to sell decent cereal instead of inventing a bunch of wierdass subflavors based on marvel characters to try and get people to buy shit they don't actually need for way too much money.

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This isn't me being a luddite. Machinery has massive potential benefit to giving humans more free time to pursue things that fulfill them and the internet is an amazing tool for disseminating knowledge and increasing communication, whether it's about art, science, or philosophy.

But I realized today, this person is just kneading different textures of dough and this person is just whittling. How many bakers and carvers loved what they did because it stimulated their senses in ways that humans have evolved to be fulfilled by?

I have another theory (that probably aligns with disability theory in some way or other) that people with autism aren't actually more common now, it's just that they're sensitive to bright artificial light and loud noises and weird smells and foreign textures the world we live in is FULL of those. And what's more, we have ever increasing attentional expectations in the midst of all that!

You used to just have a weird uncle Joe who doesn't talk a whole lot but man he can knead dough aaaalll day or thresh wheat or maybe he just makes cute little wooden toy horses all weekend and we sell them at the market on Monday. And it's weird how aunt sally hums like that but damn her lace embroidery is WILD. (we can discuss antiquated gender expectations at a different time).

This isn't saying savantism/special abilities should be expected of neurodivergent people either, just that a looot of people probably flew entirely under the radar that way for a huge portion of human history and we're only noticing them now because we're progressively putting people in more and more noxious environments where even people who could've coped in those environments can no longer cope in this one.

And now we have a whole industry of creating stimulation for people who never would have needed it if we just hadn't created an entire world without naturally occurring stimulation that they're "expected" to live in after humans spent hundreds of thousands of years learning to make tools out of wood and stone and cook over open fires, and crush and mix their own grain to make breads.

And because all these things occur on a spectrum, we're seeing more people everyday who would have had no need for the stim industry now suddenly require it because we're progressively pushing more and more people who could previously have claimed one of those coveted "normal" labels into being "different" as we steadily push them to accept less and less stimulation in their daily lives and steadily push them to stretch their attention span more and more beyond what it ever evolved to do.

TLDR; the ASMR/Stimming industry is only necessary because we created a world where those stimuli no longer occur naturally that people who need them have to live in. The concept of a "disability" is very intimately intertwined with expectations as to what environment any given person "should" be able to thrive in.

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People don't wanna talk about it at all because it's too close to trans-ness being a mental illness but imma come at this from entirely the opposite direction:

The NO.1 predictor of a cluster B personality disorder is a consistently invalidating childhood environment.

What's more invalidating than spending your whole childhood saying "hey I think I'm actually a-" and every single person around you cutting you off right there and saying "no you ain't." Psychiatry ain't shit without social context but psychiatry is also coming to accept that being constantly invalidated as a child gonna do your brain the fucky-wucky.

It's ok to accept that trans ppl are at an increased risk of personality disorders due to our completely fucked societal norms. Accepting that we're at increased risk of mental disorders due to societal bullshit =/= saying being trans is a mental illness. If anything, it's an indictment of the society we live in.

TLDR; trans ppl are at increased risk of mental illness =/= transness IS a mental illness and we still deserve to acknowledge the trauma society done did to us.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/184426

A quick summary of the core issues:

HR 1195 Workplace Violence Prevention for Health Care and Social Service Workers Act - violence has been on the rise in Healthcare since even before the pandemic. It's a combination of factors encompassing everything from people who are sick and confused to drug related violence and violence because people just don't like nurses telling them what to do (for instance, no eating before surgery), and many other reasons. Here's a good article on that: https://www.ajmc.com/view/violence-against-healthcare-workers-a-rising-epidemic

HR 3165 Nurse Staffing Standards for Hospital Patient Safety and Quality Care Act of 2021 - ratios are a commonly discussed topic in nursing because a higher ratio of nurses to patients means that we have more time to spend with each individual patient and ensure that they receive adequate attention to assess and treat them. Unfortunately nurses are constantly pressured to take on more and more patients at a time so that the hospital makes as much money as possible. Often these ratios are wildly unsafe and don't allow nurses time to check for and treat basic complications that would otherwise be no problem. That's why there's laws being proposed to limit the amount of patients each nurse can have in various settings. Here's a good article on that: https://www.nationalnursesunited.org/ratios

HR 666 Anti-Racism in Public Health Act of 2021 - race is well-known to have profound and wide reaching effects on health, here's the CDC's article on that: https://www.cdc.gov/healthequity/racism-disparities/index.html

Bring Awareness of the Implications of Pay Caps - recently a huge group of congressional representatives signed a letter proposing to cap the wages of travel nurses. They're trying to spin this as just being about the cut that the travel agencies are getting, but the truth is that the high rates of pay that travel nurses have been getting these past two years had the power to finally make it worthwhile to fairly pay regular staff nurses. Suppressing travel nurse wages is just a move to try and keep nurse wages low across the board. https://www.wwno.org/public-health/2022-02-09/travel-nurse-salaries-are-rising-due-to-demand-some-hospitals-say-its-price-gouging

Support All Frontline Healthcare Workers (MD, NP, RN, LPN, CNA, RT, EMT, & FireFighters) - as nurses we understand we're part of a larger Healthcare team. We're in this together and we can't do it without our fellow Healthcare workers.

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I think it's lemmy.ml specifically but I don't know for sure? Anyone have a good workaround?

EDIT: Thanks to everyone who suggested Lemmur! Had no idea it existed but I've got it installed now!

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