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Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

Oh. That comparison is a really good one. Never though of it that way.

As a young American, how do I motivate myself to work? It feels like the entire system is a scam and it's pointless to even try. by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

Please. Be respectful.

As a young American, how do I motivate myself to work? It feels like the entire system is a scam and it's pointless to even try. by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 1 points 13 hours ago

You know this is not true. And I believe it is also harmful responding this in a post of someone who is struggling with doom/pessimistic thinking.

As a young American, how do I motivate myself to work? It feels like the entire system is a scam and it's pointless to even try. by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 2 points 13 hours ago

You are describing the worst case scenario. This is not how optimism works.

As a young American, how do I motivate myself to work? It feels like the entire system is a scam and it's pointless to even try. by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 0 points 13 hours ago

If it is the election results that are making me feel this way. I try to be optimistic even about that. I imagine what if the party I did not vote for, manages to do the good things they promised. In USA example would it not be awesome if Trump actually manages to end some wars (in at least somehow fair way)?

As a young American, how do I motivate myself to work? It feels like the entire system is a scam and it's pointless to even try. by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[+] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works -7 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Lots of pessimism in USA right now, huh?

I think this is quite common for half of USA to feel this way when the other party wins the election. This is due to electoral system you have, which has very a side effect of very strong negative campaign. So if you believe one party whole wold will go to hell if the other party wins.

But the world will not go to hell. In my probably less affected opinion nothing this bad will happen:

Although Trump had some tendencies to overthrow the voting system, such tendencies are usually gone when people win the election.
No one will start concentration camps
Trump is very bad at keeping his promises (where it the famous wall?)
No one will prosecute others just for what they were voting. It is impossible to know who voted what. Also why would Trump want to start internal war? There is no support for such war. Etc. Etc. So no. The worst case scenario is not possible. Your system has way to many safety mechanism for whole country or world would go to hell. And a lot of people who voted for Trump are not that extreme. So there is no support for the most extreme policies.

About the work though. Under any government positive or negative changes are quite slow to implement. In many countries there is a housing crisis. And even if in my country government is bound to fix this issue it will take 10 or more years to fix it. So my generation will have to find a place to live somewhere in current market conditions.

So in any case it is very bad strategy to hope for the government to fix your personal issues like your housing, your salary, your job, your dating, your happiness. On those you have to work by yourself. And I can assure you the difference you can make on your life is enormous.

To fill you with some optimism you can try to write a list on what you life would look like if you really try to improve it. And yes of course live the politics out of it and focus only on your life and changes you can affect.

For my personal escape it made the most difference to become more optimistic:

By practicing gratitude
By always trying to look on the bright side of thing. I believe those things make the most difference. Because imo happiness comes from thinking you have awesome life.

Edit: Why the down votes?

Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? by bkr78658 in c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

[-] bkr78658@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago

A very good point! It gets to me the most when I really try to write a well structured argument. Like yours. And then someone comes and just dismisses whole point with some logical fallacy or something like that. It hurts the most since I spent a long time writing such post.

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Is Facebook making a comeback? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by bkr78658@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I used Facebook just for one community that would not move elsewhere. So I had to check it once a month. But then Facebook started recommending me other interesting groups and communities I joined. In my experience Facebook 6 months ago just recommended random old memes and ads. And I was hoping enshitification would finally eat Facebook for good. (I mean tiktok like reels however still shows enshitification is their top priority)

But now I am member of groups with active and helpful people. Niche groups you will not be able to find on lemmy or even reddit.

For me to really start liking it again after 10 years into enshitification they would probably have to become really open. Like joining a fediverse and offer messenger interoperability with other apps. Probably even becomming opensource.

Is it true that facebook feed is becomming more interesting or is this just my feeling because I joined those groups that existed there probably for a long time? Is Facebook making a comeback?

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Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by bkr78658@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.