I don't think anyone is telling you that you have to find her attractive? It's more a complaint at those people who say that she's unrealistic as a love interest and that no-one could be attracted to her, which is simply hypocritical misogyny.
WRT the last paragraph, I've always liked James Joyce's love letters. Sex and body image has become far too sanitised in media in my view.
I like the attention to detail that they did Plato as a beefcake.