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But our culture has made us forget that we are strong and capable, has raised us to never develop the muscles to be able to stop someone, to never tear an assailant’s skin off with our teeth, etc.

I really don't think we should be perpetuating the idea that women can rely on their strength to fight off an offender.

It has the knock-on effect of emboldening women to put themselves into situations they otherwise would not because "they know how to fight" or what have you. Then they find out just how powerful testosterone is and bad things happen.

I'm serious. As a man who gets next to no exercise, I still feel strong as hell. I still feel like I could demolish any chick who isn't hitting up the gym 5 days a week. I wouldn't, but it's scary to think about. The natural advantage that testosterone gives, coupled with males being brought up to think they need to be tough, paints a very poor picture for the "girl power" crew that wants to pretend women can reliably combat men.

Really, the best thing we can be doing is teaching people how to avoid dangerous situation altogether. It'd be nice if we could create a culture of recognizing womanizing scumbags when we see them.

It's not really unique to women or SA. I'm not trying to downplay the severity of it, I'm merely highlighting how most crimes are actually quite hard to prove and get justice for.

For example, most people whose cars are broken into never receive justice.

I'm doing something by telling everyone to stop putting their faith in shitty men.

It's like thieves. You can't trust a thief and then act all surprised when he steals from you.

Not all people are thieves just like not all men are rapists, but putting your faith in the ones who are obviously scumbags is opening yourself up to be taken advantage of by them.

I wish I didn't have to say this, but I see way too many women willingly getting taken advantage of by shitty people then getting mad at anyone who calls it out.

At some point, we need to be able to protect ourselves from the predators.

If you're hanging around people that need to be "taught" rape is bad, then maybe you should find a better friend group.

I'm referring to the macrocosm of rape culture outside of Antarctica.

We need to be willing to recognize and ostracize scumbags and womanizers. Unfortunately, we tend to elevate them to the highest positions of power in our social circles.

That needs to change.

Schools should be teaching boys to respect women and not believe they have a ‘right’ to women’s bodies.

What? This has nothing to do with schooling.

Every time you see a woman get womanized, it just tells all the men that they don't need to try as hard to get with her.

Womanizers are successful because there's a significant portion of women who want to be womanized. Look at all your personal experiences for no shortage of evidence to back this up.

Women need to have higher standards and stop putting their faith in obvious scumbags if they want culture to change. Too many women expect guys to "mac" on them and assume the guys who don't aren't interested. It's rhetoric that they proudly spew to each other without realizing the damage it does.

"If he's not talking to you, you can believe he's talking to someone else!" This kind of stuff is a load of bullshit and only serves to give womanizers an edge over better people.

"It's easier to fool someone than to convince them they'd been fooled" - Mark Twain. This is true because the women who put their faith in shitty men don't want to admit they valued the wrong things or have been taken for a ride, so they just keep going. Their "friends" who are doing the same thing also don't want to admit it or change.

Before you people get mad at me for "blaming the victim," try to understand that avoiding holding women accountable for their actions contributes to idea of viewing them as helpless children.

A gun is pretty much the best solution, especially for a woman.

Tasers, pepper spray, martial arts, etc don't always work and usually serve to just piss off your assailant.

I keep saying this: women and minorities should be the ones owning the most guns, not white males.

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Stop putting faith in shitty people if we want rape culture to stop. Too many times I see people complain about "rape culture" when hanging around scumbags (jocks, gangbangers, scammers). Find better influence, value different things, and have higher standards.

Rape culture only exists because we allow it to.

Maybe it's not as clear-cut as the anonymous letter-writers would have us believe.

I've seen many times how groups will lie to get rid of individuals they don't like and pretend they're virtuous.

What are the specifics? How did he physically and sexually assault someone?

Seems like you would want to plaster that information front-and-center if you really wanted to hold this guy accountable.