I think it's good to get people's sexualities out in the open before the relationship even begins. Like, I'm a bottom and I simply don't fuck women (in a conventional sense). Gay guys are more understanding. It's kind of a big deal and I wouldn't want to lead with false assumptions.

Met a fellow 30something crossdresser and free software guy on Hinge. It seemed like a great fit. We met for coffee and talked for a few hours, then he told me he wasn't gay and didn't want to meet me again. For fuck's sake. My ass won't destroy itself. 🥵😭

Now that I've scrolled through 1000+ profiles and determined that they aren't gay enough for me (I don't really go for masc/closeted/straight-looking people and I try to limit the age range to 25-40s) I really need to figure out what the fuck part of this community I'm overlooking or not understanding. I'm willing to drop out of college and move for the right relationship. Ever since I became a gay femboy, things have gotten harder.

My sexy fun for the year seemed to start and end in July. It seems I can't get much, but that doesn't stop me from trying. I brought a gay friend to a BDSM group a couple days ago, and he politely observed and listened to people talk. Very quiet and non-confrontational sort of guy. I don't think he's interested in me.

I've also taken an interest in niche dating sites - made an account on Duolicious and managed to make contact with a metrosexual 24-year-old, but he's so incredibly shy and reserved that I don't think it's going anywhere. I also found a site called Sissy Island, but they're having server errors. If I could date only in femboy and sissy circles, especially if the crowd skews more to Gen Y, I couldn't ask for more. My sexuality is abnormal, and I guess I'm going against the grain by avoiding people I'm not attracted to, since the standard for my generation seems to be having no standards.

I've been in femboy mode for the past 6 months, and it has not delivered results. Unless you count some negativity from an old lady on a bus. I've only been using nail polish for a couple weeks, and I did get a positive comment on that. Unfortunately, I'm tall and have stress lines on my face, so it's hard for me to feel cute, and I get into a negative feedback loop because of that.

I shave with specific brands of disposable twin-blade safety razor (Dorco, BIC, whatever gets you closest without cutting the skin) and shave gel. Gel seems to work a lot better than Barbasol cream.

You can also use hair removal cream for touch-ups, though my facial hair is unfortunately a lot tougher than hair removal cream alone can handle.

I hear that epilators (basically like an electric razor that goes a little deeper) work well, at least for body hair, though I haven't tried one yet.

I hear that an epigenetic medication (not HRT) reduces the thickness of non-scalp hair to the genetic level you would have without androgens, but other factors like a history of shaving and your specific ethnicity may reduce the de-hairing effect. Many cis women shave.

Not everyone with breasts is a woman, or queer for that matter. There are plenty of bigger guys with moobs. I'd like to know if those daddies get off on nipple/breast play as much as I do.

What standards? I literally just want a boy in the ballpark of my own age and interests. Should I really hook up with guys older than my parents for a few extra bucks? You must be into some hardcore humiliation.

Stick around cutie :P

The lemmynsfw board is more focused on OC, while there's an even smaller community for discussion at !femboy@lemmy.blahaj.zone

I will say as a bottom-tier femboy that I'm happy to engage with any kindred spirit. I'm not exactly living in a gay paradise, so my heart flutters when cuties send me messages <3

TheSluttyMelon is exactly my type <3

Very happy for the content. I had no idea that queer posix intersectionality was officially a thing. Arch too. You mean business.

The "even though" assumes most readers identify as heterosexual. I think in the bdsm community we're mostly bi/pan. It sucks how many vanilla people are sexually repressed and don't know how to express their desire. I went through a phase when I called myself "straight" because I felt a shortage of female partners, but now I feel a shortage of male partners and I'd really like a dick in my ass again.