How can people learn or understand if they can’t ask for help to learn?

There are actually lots of resources about this on the internet that you can look at rather than asking pwd directly to educate you, because it is exhausting and I get that lots of people have these questions, but also -- again -- there are many resources about it on the internet. It is both draining and isolating feeling as if you need to be constantly educating people around you and convincing them that you're not just trying to weasel out of working or whatever.

For me, my disability is MS and my most disabling symptom is fatigue and double vision that develops from fatigue (also heat and cold sensitivity...). I spend all my energy raising my daughter, and still don't have enough energy always to do that the way that I would like to. Honestly I am not sure where you're going with this question, but it feels like asking pwd to satisfy you that we have different capacities and it doesn't feel great.

I agree that this is a cool idea, but I also wanted to note that these kinds of labour trade systems remain inaccessible to many people with disability, as well as to single parents, carers, and other people who are time poor.

I mean, you can create two accounts. I have my Beehaw account as well as my startrek.website account, for example. I use them both for different things, and they both have different vibes. I quite like it tbh.

I agree, at first my knee-jerk reaction was against defederation, but I think actually this is one of the cool things about Lemmy and the way it works; you can have relatively isolated pockets and very open spaces, and users can move between them freely. It's not like leaving Reddit and coming to Lemmy, for example. You can use Beehaw and other instances, and both can serve a specific purpose. I really appreciate this write up because without it I would not have felt good about this decision, but after having read it I get it and I appreciate it.