Our party? Democrats are no more my party than Republicans are. They are objectively the better option for someone like me given the alternative, but in no way do they represent me. They are just another element of the capitalist corporate hegemony, and I'm just a consumer to them.

It's hard to move out of the states, and my degree isn't a high enough level to let me get a work visa in my current field.

I don't think it helps the manager I reported to doesn't work with trans patients, and I only saw her when I needed something (like an IT request). Definitely put her subconscious interpretation of me as "someone needy".

Your typo gave me the mental image of my cat as an autobot. 10/10

I do, the longer it's been the shorter they are (almost 10 years now). My trigger is seeing someone, usually in a TV or movie, take that long, exaggerated drag.

As a trans girl, I get a lot of interest from other trans girls, so it checks out for me.

Yeah, I was going to give this a watch, but 6 hours? I think I got the main points from the synopsis.

I love to rag on Star Wars as much as any salty millennial, but fucking get on with it.

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Grindr. Cause I'm sure you want to see the ads, lol

Just want to comment on the "trap is ok/not ok debate."

It's totally cool if you or your partner(s) identity as a trap. As an older trans girl, being a trap was a badge of honor. It meant not only do you pass, but you're fucking hot. Almost like a trap/not trap distinction of attractiveness (which is also horribly misogynistic and demeaning), but it was a qualifier.

So I get it, part of me likes the idea of being called that - in a private, contextual sense. But the problem is the word and the connotation it has in the general zeitgeist, which implies that a trans person (typically a trans woman) "tricks" a man into having sex with her, and then deserves whatever happens to her, regardless of how dehumanizing it may be.

It is the horrible, completely unjustifiable rationale behind the Panic Defense, and that's why it is a term that needs to be buried. Continued use of it is an unconscious signal that trans women are perpetrating some kind of deception just by existing in a man's field of vision (if, of course, she comes close enough to cis white heteronormtive standards of beauty).

Be woke. Don't say trap (except in the bedroom. And then smack my ass a little 😋).

I'm trans and work in Healthcare, and I often just queer as a catch all phrase instead of using the whole acronym. It's easier to say and most queer folk are not offended by it.

That being said, I try to use the specific group names when I am personally talking to patients, as I think it's empowering to hear them in a way that doesn't assign normative value.

I did acrylic nails for the first time, and I can barely stop looking at my hands! It's amazing how much more feminine they look with just a little extra length