netgear fs108
That belongs in a museum.
Would like the QNAP to be set up with a vm for a single login that is accessable remotely.
Doesn't look to be possible on the TS223. QNAP don't do any VM on their ARM models, and the limited memory would kill all but the most basic tasks anyway. I think you'll have more than enough capacity in the HP server anyway. The QNAP will be good for storing backups of important files.
Would ike the HPE to be set up as a media server, file storage (Pics, Movies, Music) with access via wifi for 4x TVS, multiple tablets and laptops and a single desktop
Plex is what I use, runs on most devices. There are other ways too.
Considering home automation, but realistally wont be doing anything with that for a few years
Home Assistant is a great solution for that. Easy to get started and add things over time.
Would love to somehow tie the home security camera system into this also?
Looks like there is some integration for Hikvision in Home Assistant (live camera view and monitoring events)
My system is Reolink cameras running through Zoneminder. Works about the same.
I'm in Logan btw, so not particularly far away.
For myself, I'm happy to still spend some time setting things up - as long as they run smoothly after that. I find with out of the box solutions, you end up compromising privacy and flexibility. But, as with all things, there is a balance to find.
Setting up the drives is usually the hard part, most of the rest is the same as a desktop PC. Networking can be a little more complicated when you have multiple interfaces.
fs108 is a 100Mbit switch, gigabit is the baseline these days. And 2.5G/5G and even 10G/25G is moving into residential these days.
Ubiquiti might be a good choice for you; for switching, routing and access points.
Gives a nice central control panel, and can turn things on and off manually or on a schedule.