[-] utg@mander.xyz 10 points 1 year ago

The old outlook was just perfect, the new one is positively abhorrent. I swear if they force one more app to me I'm going to purposefully stop using it altogether

[-] utg@mander.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

I've noticed that the lack of content and poor arrangements is pushing me back to reddit

[-] utg@mander.xyz 19 points 1 year ago

My realization came from DDLC. I learned about what other people can feel after you've left

[-] utg@mander.xyz 5 points 1 year ago

It's a carbon tax on imported products aimed at incentivizing companies to move to cleaner processess

[-] utg@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

Smoked for 8 years, a pack a day, sometimes more.

One day I was suffering really bad from depression, that's when I suddenly decided that I've stopped smoking. The cravings were rough, but I powered through. A year and half later my life got much better, unfortunately at that time I picked it up again, for another year.

I knew I shouldn't continue this habit, I actually hated it, but I became it's slave once more, a pack a day again. This time however, I had an aim of improving my physical and mental health. I joined a gym and went for daily runs. I noticed that after a run I wouldn't crave a cigarret for hours. After months of training, I increased my gym/running activity to 2 hrs and quit smoking at the same time. It was easier than before.

Unfortunately again, I started using nicotine pouches thinking I wouldn't get addicted to it. For half a year I used it, before again starting gym and running and then quit nicotine altogether. Initially it was a bit rough as my mental health wasn't too good at that time, but now after a month, I don't even get the cravings either. Hopefully I won't Crack this time

[-] utg@mander.xyz 52 points 1 year ago

That starting the work is half the work. I wasted a lot of time procrastinating, it took me shamefully long to realize that if I could just start an activity for 5 minutes, taking it to completion is then relatively easy

[-] utg@mander.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

What's most frustrating about it is that even when I try to help others see that this is the real cause of friction between us - that poor communication or misunderstanding is the real cause of our arguments, many if not most would still fight me that I'm wrong and they're right and it's like nobody wants to reach a solution, they'd rather forever spin in the accusations

[-] utg@mander.xyz 11 points 1 year ago

I use edge and onedrive. I like my settings in a particular way. However, microsoft thinks it's okay to change the system settings every few days because in their infinite wisdom I can't use their products enough without them forcing them down my throat every chance they get.

It's gotten to a point where I change the settings via registery key, but after a few hours it reverts back

[-] utg@mander.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

I've seen many kids well into their 30s, and I've seen many old souls just entering 20s. Maturity comes at different stages for everyone, and some don't get it at all. Don't Overthinking the age gap, what you really need is mental compatibility. If it's there then you'll be fine.

[-] utg@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

Thanks Alot, for sharing this, it was a great fun read

[-] utg@mander.xyz 64 points 1 year ago

Yes, but not in the way you'd think.

I think lemmy won't be easy enough to use for a vast majority of users, they'll stick to the traditional platforms.

However, I think if the hype continues for a while, and the little kinks are ironed out soon enough, it will give rise to a new, different kind of platform.

People have this idea that lemmy will replace reddit and just become Reddit 2.0. I think lemmy is still a place similar to a phoenix burning. The new bird has yet to take it's first breath, and it'll be quiet different from what we imagine or what we are used to today

[-] utg@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

After battling with depression for 6 years, my life turned around. In just under a year, I went from having suicidal thoughts to graduating and landing one of the best jobs in my entire country.

It took me a while to fully accept that good things can happen to me, I think it was almost an entire year before I was in a normal mental state.

Take a deep breath, understand what is the minimum required from you on your new job, do not fall below that, and just let the blissful feelings come in. Enjoy this moment, perhaps years down the line, on a really tough day, you'll remember your current mood and be happy even in face of hardships.

Congrats on finally it to your dream :)

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submitted 1 year ago by utg@mander.xyz to c/mander@mander.xyz

Apologies if this isn't the right place to post this, please do advise

I have been very patient with some of the nuances / learning curves of lemmy. I think that In time these will be ironed out and we'll have a thriving user base. However, I do feel that these issues need to be resolved at the earliest because right now is the time many users are leaving reddit or looking for an alternative. If the situation arises that the issues that the community faces while using lemmy are not fixed in timely manner, then new users might simply decide to not stay here very long.

There are a couple of things that are bothering me, but among them are few that cause me to stop using lemmy after a while. I'll try to list them here simply for the fact that I couldn't find any space which felt suited for this. If any one of you knows where this will be better suited please let me know, or post it there.

Anyway, here's my list:

  • I'm unable to subscribe to some communities. With some of them I was successful after I k interacted with them, but others like technology or android communities are still pending.
  • after viewing a post, when I click back it often takes me back to the top. Facing the issue on both the web page and jerboa app
  • sometimes, mander.xyz is unaccessible. The webpage gives an error that such a page doesn't exist while other communities still show up. Not sure why this is
  • the main feed is still a mess. I have to visit the subscribed communities to get any real content from them, but the subscribed feed either shows old content or just spams from a few of them.

Other issues also exist, but I feel these are the ones that really need to be addressed.

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Why YSK?

I had a very close brush with depression few years back. It was journaling habit that saved me. Many times you wish to keep your ideas and your health to yourself (or are simply unable to share) this is where journaling can be extremely powerful tool to help yourself

Often times it was very painful to be wanting to speak to someone who could understand the pain and suffering, yet also knowing that there isn't one. It's not that my friends or my parents would shun me away from speaking out or seeking help, but because my depressed mind always circled back to the point that they cannot understand me.

Journaling allowed me to talk to the person who knew all about me; Myself.

I would write a couple of pages about things bothering me, feelings of powerlessness, and just sharing the general hopelessness. Sometimes I would re-read previous pages and it would become an exercise of trying to solve some of the problems. It was like having two different versions of myself speaking to each other. Sometimes one would speak of an issue, the other would try to find a way out, and vice versa.

Over the course of a few months, it was joined by another instance that would comment on my progress over some ideas that I had been thinking over. So, it became sort of scientific process of observation, hypothesis and experiment. At one time I would explain a problem, some time later I would myself come up with a solution that could help it, and soon I would be talking it over with myself about how good it was and suggesting changes to myself after all that experience.

My initial fight with depression has been over for many years now, but I kept journaling. It helped me lose weight, get into shape, set my own goals and start new hobbies even. One thing I want you to know is that at the current moment, I feel as though my depression is like cigarettes. I quit, but every day I still wish to start again. It means that another stressful time at work or even home has the potential to restart depression in my head, and it very nearly did.

It was journaling that alerted me to my changing mental state, enabled me to come up with a strategy to fight back and take back control of my own life.

Mental health is not like other health issues where people can see the effects on your body, your face. If someone can recognize your depression from your behavior, chances are that you have already suffered too much pain. While there are many places that can provide professional help that you may need, I admit that not everyone is in a position to seek it out - like myself. In that case, I hope that this personal experience can be a little helpful

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