Over a million Russian soldiers are dead
Questionable. According to Ukrainian posters which should be taken with a grain of salt.
Also, COVID killed about a million russians, 2 millions die yearly. So having 1 additional million people dead in 3 years is not a big toll. That's probably the logic of the Russian government - those who really decide whether to continue the war or not
Who are 'they'? If you talk about people who decide to continue the war - not necessarily: the power and elite are cementing and the probability of toppling Putin is decreasing rapidly with each year of militarization.
If you talk about common people, then I agree, for regular russians that's a disaster, for a tiny minority - the last opportunity to get rich.
If you equate these categories, you are a delulu