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I don't get the "we fuck all the time" vibe from hearing "we are trying for a baby", but maybe because I've seen the reality of it; most people who are trying for a baby are informed enough to know that you don't need to go wild most of the month, and most people have been together for quite some time and have stressful day to day lives that don't allow (lust, time, and energy wise) for fucking all the time.

Usually "we are trying for a baby" implies they stopped using contraceptives and are tracking the cycle to fuck once or twice within the fertile window. It's not that different from regular sex within a long term relationship. (If trying for a baby makes you go wild and you fuck like bunnies every day for months on end more power to you though!)

But then again I am not disgusted by the idea of people having sex or bodily fluids. If they share TMI I'm usually just like "nice" or "good for you!" and enjoy the fact that they are open enough and we are close enough for me to hear details about their private life.

That being said, why would anyone at work share that they are trying for a baby to begin with? Work environment usually doesn't welcome pregnancy - it implies more sick leave, parental leave, and more emergency days off once the kid is older. Just saying "one day I'd like to start a family" makes you a less attractive person for a position. So I would always imply that I don't want kids, I don't want a family, I don't even like kids and I am infertile.

But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"

I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.

Ever since I tried bronze pasta I cannot look at regular pasta the same way. I cannot buy that yellow stuff anymore.

As a fellow up the arse coffee lover - I moved away from drinking fancy coffee every day. Not just because 250 grams are, at best, at 16€ and I drink about 35 grams a day on an average day, but also because it takes away the "specialty" if you drink it daily, regularly, ordinarily. I now have a go to coffee (pre ground even) that I enjoy drinking as my "normal" coffee and treat myself to a cup of specialty every now and then, and a bag now lasts me a month. I enjoy it much more and I save a lot of money - although my go to coffee is also not the cheapest crap.

I also started out with instant coffee btw - took some with me with milk and sugar to school in a small water bottle when I was a young teenager (and girlmore girls was on so I had to get into coffee). Just reading your comment gave me a flashback to being 14 and my mom giving me the "good instant coffee". Memories and vibes.

In another screenshot I once read "my retirement plan is to die in the socialist revolution" and I think that's exactly what I hope for

Probably from every day since the internet was born. That's what Merz says every single day, no ifs and buts on that.

There is a documentary about the "it started out with a wank because I broke my arm" guy??

My dad is... complicated, and I could tell a lot of insane stories. But the memory that is haunting me is how he said "we won't wait when war starts", in Russian. It made no sense. I overheard it as a part of some conversation with my mother (maybe other grown ups as well) when I was a kid and I asked what he meant and he claimed he didn't remember saying that. I believe him that he didn't remember. But it was odd, it's not something he would say. Neither he, nor my mom, nor their friends are political people talking about war, ever. It was said casually, but no one ever casually talked about war or politics over here. This was 25 years ago. I kept thinking about it for years and years again, trying to grasp what it meant, what it might have meant, and why it stuck with me so much, why I couldn't get it out of my head, why I couldn't let it go.

It was also painfully screaming in my head when Russia attacked Ukraine in 2022. It's like it was an eerie foreshadowing but I still don't know. I have so few memories of my childhood, why did this one stay? Why do I see and hear him say this? What did he mean with "we won't wait"? Did he mean we won't wait for the war to start or we won't wait when the war will have started? Both are possible interpretations in the Russian wording. What are we waiting for? Are we still waiting? What should we be doing?

I keep going back to this one stupid sentence and this memory is ringing in my ears. What does it want to tell me to do? I know I need to do something, I just can't figure out what.

Thank you. I was really confused and had to read it a couple of times. A first read made me think the dad started jerking off with an octopus and this went downhill.

especially a nonfiction book

I'd argue this is at least as relevant for fiction books. Most books that are considered "good" or "masterpieces" haven't earned that from the story but from how it is told, from the language used, the writing style, how a greater picture is painted. Any German student who had to go through the pains of reading a Thomas Mann novel will know what I am talking about, that dude could have written a 150 page book with 90 sentences. Of course you can read an analysis of symbolism and style characteristics used and the plot summary, but it isn't the same as reading the novel, as the story will not grasp you in the same way. It's not about the content, it's about its presentation. (In the case of Thomas Mann the pain is a vital part of the presentation.)

There is no such thing as a bad reason for not wanting to drive a car. Any reason that makes you not want to drive a car is valid.

I am rather susceptible to hating actors because of some role they played. I literally hated Hugh Grant for no other reason than him being an asshole to Bridget Jones. I am now scared to watch Gladiator.