Things I learned as a child that probably no one intended to teach me

• To grown-ups, being bad at stuff is a sin. Forgetting stuff is the worst sin of all, and also doesn’t exist - it is widely believed (and your behaviour will be interpreted thusly) that in some Freudian sense, it is impossible to forget things it you care about them or their consequences or the people who care about those things.
• Your being happy and enjoying what you do doesn't matter. All that matters is whether you are Fulfilling Your Potential.
• Human beings do not require rest outside of sleep. Thinking that you do is called “being lazy’.
• Who you show physical affection to is a matter of politeness and social protocol, and has nothing to do with your own desires
• It is rude to inform people of your preferences, even if they seem to care about catering to them and therefore might find this useful information.
• Etiquette centres around doing things in especially awkward, skilful and time-constumning ways in order to demonstrate superiority over people who aren't able to keep up.

Meme: Two panels.

1st panel

• Drake in shunning posture
• "With all that you have accomplished, you cannot be AuDHD. Stop trying to find excuses or pity."

2nd panel

• Drake in welcoming posture
• "I'm impressed with your accomplishments despite being AuDHD. You're an amazing person and could contribute even more with proper support. I hope whatever you achieve improves my life somehow."

Why is it so hard for people to work together and support each other? Why do things turn into competitions, disagreements, rigidity, who's right and who's wrong?

For all my autistics, ADHDers, and AuDHDers out there making it happen with limited support and extra barriers, I know you exist and I'm proud of you. I hope this post helps you feel seen today. ✊❤️

PS- I'm having one them days. 🌊🌊🌊

Bonus: Grateful by Kota the Friend (NSFW language)

cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/15489513

Cheekily "fixing" this post

Meme: Screenshot of microblog post by @alanjack replying to @fotchi.

Caption: I still don't know why part of autistic/adhd diagnosis isn't putting you in a room with someone already diagnosed and seeing how quickly you bond.

Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation

P: The social world is very confusing to me, so people like to take advantage of me

J: The social world is very confusing to you, so people like to take advantage of you

P: If I am being fun, free, and caring around you

J: If you are being fun, free, and caring around me

P: It's because I think you understand me and are a safe person

J: It's because you think I understand you are am a safe person

P: It does not mean I have a romantic interest in you

J: So you have a crush on me

Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation

P: I'm autistic, so I depend on people to help me survive in social settings

J: You're autistic, so you depend on people to help you survive in social settings

P: I have found very few safe people to help me

J: You have found very few safe people to help you

P: I also feel emotions more intensely than others

J: You also feel emotions more intensely than others

P: When I lose someone, I feel intense fear and grief

J: So you're borderline

PS: This is not meant to insult or judge anyone that is borderline. It's expressing frustration with receiving hurtful treatment because the underlying issues are not the same.

Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation

P: I am autistic. You are neurotpyical.

J: You are autistic. I am neurotypical.

P: Our brains work differently and have their strengths and disadvantages.

J: Our brains work differently and have their strengths and disadvantages.

P: I'm good at learning. You're good at socializing.

J: You're good at learning. I'm good at socializing.

P: It does not mean that one is better than the other.

J: So you're a genius that pretends to be stupid to get away with things.

Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation

P: If I did something that upset you, I probably don't know I did that

J: If you did something that upset me, you probably don't know you did that

P: If you talk to me in a respectful manner, we can clarify what happened

J: If I talk to you in a respectful manner, we can clarify what happened

P: Then I can make a personal rule to avoid upsetting you again in the future

J: Then you can make a personal rule to avoid upsetting me in the future

P: But if you just take revenge, I don't know why, so I think you're just a jerk

J: So I need to take revenge on you for calling me a jerk now

Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation.

P: I'm autistic, so my brain works differently

J: You're autistic, so your brain works differently

P: Sometimes I misunderstand social situations without any awareness

J: Sometimes you misunderstand social situations without any awareness

P: But I respond very well to direct and respectful communication

J: But you respond very well to direct and respectful communication

P: So pls talk to me instead of punishing me

J: So I'm not punishing you the right way!

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/20910910

https://www.instagram.com/sarahandersencomics/?hl=en

Caption:

Me: Proudly gives someone a heartfelt compliment

Everyone else in the room

Meme: Unsettled Tom (cat from Tom & Jerry)

Meme: 2 panels

1st panel

• Image: Bus on a railroad crossing
• Caption: Me trying to casually say good bye because I don't want anyone to know I am overwhelmed

2nd panel

• Image: Train slamming bus out of crossroad
• Caption: The weird noises that came out of my mouth

Meme of a guy explaining a conspiracy

• Top caption: Ok, so, we have brain cells, right?...
• Bottom caption: POV: You're my psychologist watching me explain executive functioning

The scroll of truth meme caption: you're never going to figure out autism or adhd

Seriously though, sometimes getting out of your comfort zone is good for you. Everything in moderation, even moderation.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/20507819

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/20487558

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(trying to make small talk) notice any patterns lately

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