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How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy?
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"I'm not so into skinny guys" sounds like an excuse, if you are getting it a lot I think there is something else going on here, not all women even have a type and some surely like skinny guys, some of the hottest men I've been with were so skinny, it can be a very attractive look on a man.
Since you say it's your own standards, what do you mean? Do you think you are sort of batting out of your league looks-wise? You are already dancing so your body is probably in good shape, is there anything else that makes you think you are not physically attractive? May I ask how old you are?
You are outgoing and social, perhaps try practicing flirting? Like, without trying to take it any further?
Yes, definitely.
My arms and legs are particularly skinny, like Ballerina level skinny.
I am 24 years old
I find flirting difficult. Because I never want to make it obvious and I don't know if that's a good thing or not.
You're very young to have decided that a partner will never happen for you.
The very best thing you can do is socialize without expectation of partnership and learn to have fun and enjoy flirting with people without the intention of following through. When you can get with a bunch of friends, laugh and flirt and go home alone and feel good about it, like appreciate the joy inherent in those moments without ruining it by pining for more... you will be doing yourself two favors.
One, you'll stop feeling like not dating is celibacy - it's just where you're at.
Two, you'll become much more attractive to potential partners, and you'll find folks won't care so much about your looks. The vibe will be way different, for real, because of the self-confidence inherent in enjoying your life without needing anything from anyone else.
Bonus - You might find, by flirting with people you have no intention of sleeping with, that your tastes expand. Just don't tell a woman you're not following through because she doesn't meet your physical standards, that will get you in a dating blacklist in no time.