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An incredible band that I love is releasing a new album. And I’m just sitting here thinking I might never get to see a live show again. My health fell apart a few years ago and there’s so much I just can’t participate in now and it’s so alienating and sad. I remember being drunk and dancing in crowds seemingly not that long ago, now I have to spend close to 80% of my time in bed just to have enough energy to do the basics like cook and shower and eat. It sucks. I miss being in rooms full of strangers and screaming and just living life in public at all, being around other humans. I don’t have anyone to help me do things, and every cool thing that happens in the world now is bittersweet because I can’t directly enjoy it. I’m like only able to have small bites of life and I am really really really really really really really sad about it. I might never get to see any band live again at all, and if I ever do through some incredible stroke of luck I still won’t be able to jump around or stand up or drink like I would want to. My enthusiasm is trapped in my body seemingly forever now. It’s just shit. Other things about life are good, great even, but this specific way of being in the world and being around like minded people feels like it’s gone forever.

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[-] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 months ago

VR + VRChat has been life changing for many people in similar situations. I would highly suggest checking it out if at all possible. Seek out adult groups/worlds. You can still have a very social life in VR. That shit saved me during COVID and I ended up in a long term relationship.

[-] sentientity@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

This is a great suggestion. Where did you go to meet people in those spaces? Edit: real people.

Buying tech probably isnt in the cards for me anytime soon, but i am so curious where adults are going to like actually hang out online. It seems less common these days

[-] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I would suggest getting on as late as possible (when most of the kids are asleep). Then it's just a matter of world hopping until you find some people you relate to. If you have a gaming PC you can run the PC version of VRChat. There are many worlds that can only be accessed on PC and they tend to have more mature people. But even if you're just on Quest there are plenty of folks on there. In time you'll build a friend list and find your people.

This youtube channel is the gold standard as far as vrchat guides: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMMBpWfWUd3xlcOxrot_neA

Meta is releasing a new budget headset this holiday season. You could also opt for an old Quest 2 for hella cheap. They're showing their age but it'll get you in there to see how you like it.

[-] sentientity@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago

Thanks, for both the info and the idea!

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