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Bit of sadness is getting me again (self.casualconversation)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Platypus to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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The temporary job I have currently is depressing but I don't have any other options, I don't have studies or preparation of any kind and I'm not a kid anymore, anti social and poor to getting out of this...

I was trying to get my driving license but I was thinking on giving up on that, the teacher is kind of an asshole and I dread the lessons, after so many I don't see progress... I'm only still going because starting from zero means hundreds of euro wasted, starting from 0 means another investment. I wish I wouldn't had started them, but I was being pressured by my family due being unemployed.

I have to go to work again tonight in an hour, night shift... I almost wanna get fired.

I apologise if my post is a downer, but this is basically the state of my life.

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[–] Nougat@fedia.io 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

With regard to goals, if you're in a rut and don't know how to get out of it, make "be an observer" a goal. It doesn't take much effort, and no matter what's going on around you, you can already observe it. Try to observe without making snap judgments; you're practicing paying attention right now. When you do start to make judgments about things (whether immediately or with some distance), double check your conclusions, thinking about whether those conclusions actually follow your observations.

You should gain a tiny bit of comfort from having a little more control over your thought processes, more conclusions based on what you know, and fewer based on what you fear. This tiny bit of comfort is just a little stepstool that gets you up off the bottom of your hole. From there, you can start building another step. Eventually, you'll have a staircase, but you need to build it, and you need to climb it.

[–] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I think that aligns well with the general advice on how to get somewhere and how to start moving: You take one step at a time...

And if you're really down, the only thing that matters is that you do any. And make it a habit to do it regularly. You can worry about the size of the steps and the direction later, after you stopped being completely down and disheartened. But I'm not a psychologist...