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She won’t talk to me, what do I do? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I (18NB, 18MTF) started dating this really nice girl (17F) who I’ve known at my school for a while.

I told everyone I know about her, I like her, she likes me. However, I’m still not completely over Karl (even though he’s been kind of an ass TBH since he started being friends with his ex.)

I told her if I couldn’t move on, I would have to break up with her and couldn’t go out with her if I had a crush on someone else.

I’m aware I told her about all these things, like going to a restaurant, having fun at the arcade, kissing her, etc, but now I’m having second thoughts and I guess she’s upset.

The last time we talked, she asked me about our relationship and I told her to stop talking about it. She did, I guess, but won’t talk at all now.

Update: A new message reads “I really hope this will work out. I love you ❤️. Also, please know that if it doesn’t, I won’t talk for a while, but it’s not because I’m mad at you. I just need to process things, especially with my depression and all.”

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[–] RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

oh shit… i’d say give her some time, she’s upset because you like someone else, i’d assume. also, i’d be upset too if my gf was romantic to me, then said she was breaking up because she liked someone else.

i saw your post asking if she even liked you that way. well, if she’s that upset to the point she won’t talk to you, then she definitely does. if i liked someone a little bit, i’d be a bit sad. if i had no feelings, i wouldn’t mind, and if i liked someone a LOT, I’d have a breakdown

ok, and you told her to stop talking about what was on her mind. she was probably upset by that, too, she was asking a genuine question about the relationship.