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That’s the thing, IDK if I want to be with her or not. I do but IDK
It's OK not to know what you want. It's especially OK when you're 18 and in high school. It's OK to choose an option now and change your mind later (though if you choose no, she probably won't be available to you later if you change your mind).
It's even OK to tell her that you don't want to talk about your relationship, but she's probably going to take that as you not wanting to be in a relationship with her. If you don't want her to take it that way, then you need to talk with her about your relationship even if the thing you have to say is you're unsure. Of course there's a good chance she'll respond unfavorably to your uncertainty; most people don't like being a second choice or a backup plan.
It seems like you want to be with her because she’s here right now and you’d rather have someone than no one. You wouldn’t be hesitating otherwise. You effectively told her that, too.
If you don’t think you can commit and she’s looking for that, you should let her go.