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This is a very common thing, especially those with Nice Guy (TM) syndrome. The gist of it there is that you don't feel like you have the worth or don't deserve good things, or something along those lines, so someone helping you violates that narrative, more or less.
I don't know if this applies or if I'm way off in left field, but Dr. Robert Glover is a phsychologist who's been working on these traits for a long time. Here's his website and book.
https://www.richardcarrier.info/archives/18508
And here's a thorough takedown on why Glover sucks so much. He may as well be on the Joe Rogan manosphere, fuck that guy. He's an unscientific sexist charlatan who blames radical feminism.
I thought the "Nice guy" thing was some bullshit where if you do something nice, you deserve to get something good in return, and not getting anything in return is "disrespectful" which sets off those nIcE gUyZ and leads to them insulting and berating whoever they help.
Also that creepo mentality would be a valid reason to feel uncomfortable to ask for help
That's a common trait in that mindset