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Is it normal to feel super uncomfortable getting help from strangers? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by jlyndby@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I've been in a few situations where I need substantial help from strangers, and some have offered to help (most haven't followed through) but I just can't do it.

For example someone offered to help me move and I just feel super uncomfortable about it to the point where I'd rather risk something bad happening to me. Like I feel super awkward and uncomfortable accepting huge favours from strangers

Someone even offered a place to stay for me with my pets but I can't accept it cause I feel way too awkward and like I owe them or something, like I have a huge fear and anxiety about it

Like I just feel like a disgusting parasite wasting their time and energy and it's also humiliating

Is that normal?

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[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes, it's very common to be wary of people you don't know.

[–] jlyndby@lemmy.world 1 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

It's not because I'm scared of them I don't think.. it's more so I just feel uncomfortable about the fact they're doing something for me

[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 0 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

The first people who "wanted to help" when my family bought a hotel to renovate, were the ones who robbed us blind. 2 of them were homeless, and we gave them a place to live. Still stole everything we owned.

I'd say it's still normal to be wary of people's true intentions.