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[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

derek sounds like a dick.

What you do in private does not necessarily reflect who you are in public. And who you are in public, does not necessarily reflect who you are in private either.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Realistically I don't think we have enough information to judge fairly. The person is probably minimising what they did, and if that is the case may well have deserved it. But we don't actually know what was said.

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

that is true, but i think this is a definite "everybody sucks" type of post.

I'm also not sure that derek needed to leak this either, especially going back like 5 years, that's pretty unhinged. Even a "yeah i don't like those guys i joined the group chat and it was 💀" is going to be enough to clue most people in.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

That is possible too, it depends what was said.

  • Hey guys check out this slut I just shagged all night!
  • Started talking to this girl. Here is the chat, what should I say?
  • Just started using Tinder, matched with this girl. Meeting her tonight!

yeah, it could be literally any flavor. It's hard to know form the context provided.

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This was not private. This was a group of assholes laughing behind their friends’ backs at their expense. It was secret, but not private.

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

was the entire "secret" group chat dedicated to making fun of people though? That's the thing we don't know, it just seems like a fairly active, long running group chat, with a number of distasteful posts made over time.

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

If you have a secret group chat where you make fun of your friends behind their backs, then you’re an awful piece of shit. I don’t care if it’s not solely dedicated to making fun of people. If you do it enough that your friend group ostracizes you when they find out, then you deserve to be ostracized. Why are you defending this behavior? Do you do this?

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 5 days ago (1 children)

bro i make fun of my friends in public. I don't talk to people unless it's a group. Simple as.

If it's ok for me to be harsh with people in public, i see no reason to stop being harsh with them in private, assuming it meets those boundaries.

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Then it’s not behind their back. That’s the bad part here. It’s not making fun of your friends, it’s secretly making fun of your friends. That’s the difference between “all in good fun” and “being an asshole”.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That is a very pedantic response.

[–] Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 week ago

But makes a very big difference. Talking bad things about someone publicly is not okay, and the whistleblower is doing the right thing. Well, mostly. It's not really cool that now the private messages are shared with even more people!

Talking about anything privately is a private discussion and as such, not a huge problem. Sharing someone's private messages with a group with more than two or three members is already public to an extent.