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Me, too. And I feel like you think I'm not allowed the same authenticity in how I deal with that subject, but I disagree. A very serious lecture is fine but it isn't the only way to communicate a point.
You are certainly allowed to be offended but I rather think you are missing the point.
Whoever said jokes aren't serious? You're old enough to appreciate Carlin, Pryor. They made careers joking about serious things. I joke about serious things all the time. It lightens the tension and makes serious subjects a little more palatable. It feels less like a lecture and more like friendly advice. Advice that was very clearly and openly stated not to turn to alcohol to the point that I thought it might be rather tedious to belabor such an obvious point.
I'm very sorry that my manner offends you, and that should preclude reasonable conversation on a subject about which we both agree. However, I completely disagree that your emotional reaction must dictate the one true way to talk about this subject. By all means, share your advice and experience, but kindly leave me out of it.
I'm not offended. At all. I understand, this is a trigger point for you. You can't look past your own experience and that's unfortunate. You also confuse your experience with authority. In fact, being a self-important authoritarian is about the most American thing you could do right now. (I have no idea what you were trying to say there? That exclusively Americans can use humor on serious subjects?)
I'm going to do us both a favor and ensure we don't have this conversation again. Have a good day. Congratulations on sobriety. That's a huge accomplishment and I don't have to like you to respect that.