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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] Croquette@sh.itjust.works 17 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

I've been with my partner for 13 years and I'd say you still change a lot between 34 and 43, as you put it. The difference is that as we get older, we are usually more accepting of all the little things we used to find annoying.

I find that my core values are stronger, but everything else is less annoying overall. It makes accepting that your partner is changing a lot easier to deal with, so long as their changes aren't in contradiction with your core values.