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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 3 days ago by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hi. I’m you. It’s weird reading something so fucking … exact.

I’m sorry you went through that.

[–] jimmux@programming.dev 2 points 2 days ago

Thanks for confirming I'm not alone in this, and sorry you've experienced the same.

People tend to think marriage breakdowns happen for obvious reasons, like infidelity, laziness, just losing interest. It's scary to think that you can tick all the right boxes but it can all fall apart anyway, because we as individuals can fall apart.

We need to do so much more for mental health support.