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You say you're arguing in favor of less toxicity, but your example was a screenshot of a comment where I asserted my own healthy boundaries (after being needled by hundreds of demands in the form of "what about ?" from strangers over the course of months).
Which is more toxic?
The one that contains the most aggression.
Do most of those strangers know that you are receiving hundreds of requests? They're strangers, so I'm betting on no. Are they then deserving of any swearing and caps lock yelling? Even if they do know, I can recall few to no instances where unironically doing so packed a punch.
A more reasonable answer would have been: "Sorry, no idea. For my own healthy boundaries I have to refrain from doing too much of this often-requested but time-consuming research."
Not toxic, more effective. And as I mentioned in another reply, with AutoKey you could configure that typing the word "sigh" or phrase ''goddammit not again" automatically expands into the alternative answer suggested above. Being frustrated is fine, and venting is absolutely necessary, but there are ways to do it that are healthy for everyone involved, such as the autoreply and then going for a run. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
Aggression isn't toxicity. The logical consequence of your stance is negative peace, and broken stairs.
Sure they do, because I tell them. The screenshot you posted is proof that I inform them.
The rest of this is needless language policing.
Subjective. “A toxic person is anyone whose behavior upsets you and adds negativity to your life.”
Asking a simple question and out of the blue getting a response intermixed with full caps and "fucking" would be enough to add negativity to many if not most people's lives. Also the unyielding need to defend one's doing so doesn't help to convey the converse.
You "inform" them afterwards, therefore they didn't know.
Not sure what the definition of "language policing" is, but welcome to the Internet. You're free to be crude or toxic while others are free to point out it out, which is rarely needless.