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mine is that people in general are bad and terrible and my ideal life would be as a hermit with very little interaction with anyone except my animals and plants and no impact from people or governments and never reading the news.

when i was young, i was optimistic about the future of the human race but reality has bitch-smacked my inner child and taught me the truth and it keeps getting confirmed the older and older I get.

so what lessons have you learned as you've gotten older?

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[–] rollmagma@lemmy.world 43 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Mine is the exact opposite, that people are generally kind and good once you remove some initial barriers that keep us apart. The older I get, the more love for people in general I feel.

So I guess we're both mentally ill. High five!

[–] kautau@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I’ve learned that people almost exclusively fall into holes of being good at heart or bad at heart. At this point in my life, I tend to pick up on how they think about others pretty quickly.

I’ve found that people good at heart are generally capable of opening up kindness once they gain empathy for someone, e.g. realize what someone is going through, even when they were previously convinced otherwise. Sometimes they’re quick to anger, but they seem to get that we’re all people so they just want to be sure they’re mad at the right people.

I’ve found that people bad at heart consider every interaction in their life to be a transaction, or a zero sum game. Unfortunately they’re easily convinced that the person next to them in line, or the generation they don’t understand, or the invisible immigrants or whatever are the cause of all their problems with money, healthcare, taxes;

While ironically they’re reading that on Facebook, and corporations don’t want them to look at the history of their wages vs profits or whatever. There’s a big difference between someone who wouldn’t vote for Kamala because they thought she wouldn’t serve their interests, and someone wearing a “say no to the ho” t-shirt while actively supporting a rapist pedophile.

[–] scott@lemmy.org 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wonder if it has to do with where folks live...suburbs are full of Karen's. Rich people really suck.

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 15 points 3 days ago

Money and status rot people’s brains.

We never evolved for that.