Relationship Advice
Welcome to the Relationship Advice community on Lemmy and Kbin!
The ideal place to ask for help with your relationships: romantic, friendships, we don't know what we are yet, co-workers or just human interactions in general.
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Your title and body need to contain enough information relevant to your situation, such as ages, genders, and the relationship between people mentioned. For privacy-related concerns, we recommend using fake names and broad general locations.
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Mental Health !mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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Thank you for your kind words, this really gives me confidence that all might work out well.
Yes, Vienna is a great city - i've been born here and i love this city, i will never move away. The best public transport system in the world which only costs a buck per day if you take the 1-year-ticket, the air is great for a city with 2 million people, a lot of places where you can just sit down and relax on benches on the sidewalk, a pretty large forest with hiking routes around the town and lot's of green in the city to keep it cool in the summer. There are multiple support groups with therapy offerings which are fully paid by the city, i've been going there for 4 years and it didn't cost me a single dollar. That's socialism for you lol
I don't really know what our libraries offer. i've gonna have a look over the next few days.
I'm pretty open about my condition, so that everyone knows that when i leave suddenly, it's not because of anything they did, i've just reached my limit.
We are pretty rarely diagnosed, since we do not seek help in most cases. There are probably more people like us out there than is known, since we suffer silently and don't want to be a burden to anyone. A lot of them are probably wrongly diagnosed with "simple" social anxiety, but i can personally attest that it is possible to have BOTH at the same time. The AvPD was always here, but after i crashed hard with burnout i suddenly feared to answer the door and stuff like that. At least it seems that the older i get, the more i mellow out - i even can be nice to myself sometimes (my teens and 20s sucked big time tho)
Thank you so much! I will keep it in mind that you have an open ear for me if i need it, but you know how we are - i can't promise that ;-) Take care of yourself!