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How do you make friends? (endlesstalk.org)

submitted 1 day ago by Edvard@endlesstalk.org to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I have mid-high ADD and small talks just make my brain jump off all the time and get bored, and then if i continue talking i have no idea what to say, just change topic all the time.

I do like being in a community, but its hard to find people that wanna do the same as you. But is it easier to make friends with similar diagnose? I can join adhd groups, but no idea how much i will get out from it?

Any tips? Thank you!

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[–] Hereforpron2@lemmynsfw.com 8 points 1 day ago

Learn only to change the topic if the previous one has concluded naturally or there's a silence long enough to make a new question (eg, you seen that new movie?) seem like less of a non sequitur and more of an invitation to discuss something else common. Beyond that, it's just about finding friends with diverse interests who are down for wide-ranging conversations.

Also, try forcing yourself to value some small talk and not just think to yourself "ahhhh this is pointless and/or I already know where it's going!" Cuz hey, if someone is a friend, I'm willing to hear what they think about the weather, and maybe they'll surprise you once in a while. Recognize it as something others are genuinely looking for and that you can provide (and come to enjoy!) rather than a burden or annoyance you have to go through, a sorta fake it to make it thing for us folks whose brains are go go go.