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This is a problem a lot of guys have. Don’t fall into this trap of putting women on a pedestal because they’re women. And I’m not saying that to say be mean/demean/disrespectful to them either, but to treat them as equals. Don’t talk to women in any sort of unique way than you would a guy. Talk to her like anyone else. (Assuming you’re a kind person who treats others with respect. If you’re not, you should consider changing that to be more appealing to others and just to be a decent person.)
To be truthful, a lot of women actually like a guy who doesn’t seem to be interested in them than a guy who’s fawning over them. And I think we as guys are the same way, but we just don’t notice it often. If a woman followed you everywhere and talked to you and other guys differently than she did with other women, you’d probably think she was fake and it’d turn you off. Plus there’s a sort of chase we humans like. It’s kind of fun, in a weird way, to wonder if they like you or not and have that mystery of who you’re interested in and if it could be her above other women.
And there’s also this element of confidence that is seen in you being you and not treating others differently because of their sex. You come off as confident in yourself and mature, not caring about being someone who is just acting a certain way to make people like you. Your attitude of treating everyone the same tells people “this is who I am, and if you don’t like it, so what” and people find that attractive.
It’s a bit of a long thing, but eventually you’ll get to a place where either it becomes obvious a woman is interested in you and you see your “in” to pursue a relationship or she actually makes a move on you first and catches you off guard. Either way, you’re going to be where your hopes are today. And it’s hard, but try not to try so hard. The trying often comes across to people and smells of desperation and is a turn off, way more than any physical trait of ugliness ever can be.