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It's always "pick better men" but also "give every guy a chance". He's just socially awkward, don't fault him for that. Yeah he's maybe stomping over your boundaries, being too touchy and ignoring you when you say no, but he's nice and you should date him so he has a chance to learn how to be a good boyfriend. Oh, the nice guy you dated who didn't take no for an answer when he asked you out so you gave him the chance he begged for turned abusive? Well, should have known better.
Seriously.
Is it just me, or are the guys who say ‘don’t stick your dick in crazy’ the same ones bleating about how ‘if women would just sleep with incels, just once…’
These are great points! I'd also add weird men being described as "must be autistic" which is just ableist. If a guy is creeping you the fuck out, then that's not autism.
Pick better men but be perfect at it and never accidentally turn down a good dude. Just, be the perfect middle at all times, or you deserve whatever bad thing happens to you. Wear makeup but don't care about makeup or look like you're wearing it. If you can't get a raise, it's because you're not being assertive, but if you don't assert yourself perfectly, you're a bitch who doesn't deserve a raise or a job. Etc, etc. It's that same tightrope and if you can't walk it, no one will give you a hand when you fall.
I'm not defending the act of refusing to accept reality when a woman says no, but the problem is a lot of women find that behaviour charming. The sad thing is I've seen it work for guys before, and not because the woman feels sorry for him.