Waldelfe

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[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 12 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

In the original comic she is hanging up a German flag and her roommate asks her if that means she's LGBT+.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 4 points 1 day ago

The right always has a quick answer because they are throwing the same shit at every problem.

"It's the foreigners/religious group abc/political group D! Just get rid of this one group of people and all will be good."

Housing crisis? It's the immigrants. No jobs? It's the immigrants. Lonely? It's the left and also it's your own fault, just hit the gym.

It's easy to have a solution for every problem within seconds if you just claim every problem is the fault of the same 3-4 groups of people.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 6 points 1 day ago

I don't think noone else is offering solutions. The problem is that the other solutions are harder to implement or take more time and effort. "Women are at fault and you need to hit the gym." I can fix that in half a day, just get mad at women and fill out an online application for a gym membership in my area. The solutions of the manosphere are easily solved with capitalism: just buy product abc and pay to train your body.

Meanwhile, the real solutions are much harder: build a community. Find people in your area for a hobby, commit to regular meetings. Get to know people, manage disagreements, have uncomfortable conversations, invest time in others until you've slowly built a group of people around you that trust each other and are open about their feelings. Communitybuilding takes a long time. Compared to that, the manosphere's solutions are quick and easy and you can already get yourself started at home.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 6 points 1 day ago

It's also a good way to get people into questioning authorities. "The government has been lying to you about vaccines all along." leads to "You can't trust the government at all." and ultimately "Vote for parties that will dismantle our current democratic system." The anti-science/anti-vax crowd has always had a giant overlap with the politically far right.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 18 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I find that a bit funny given that in the last 15 years or so Japan has officially done a lot to attract tourists. Wanting to become a tourist destination, branding themselves as a place for holidays. I've seen so many "Visit Japan" campaigns, usually sponsored by the Japanese government, in the last decade or so. I get that it sucks for the people living in those cities and good for them that their city council does something to help, it still feels weird after years and years of campaigns to attract more tourists to Japan.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I've stayed in hostels before, but at least here in europe I haven't found many with single or double rooms. I also have a tent and went camping, but that only works fine in good weather. Also my last experience camping wasn't too good, as there were several people having loud parties until 3 a.m. and the people in charge of the camping ground didn't do anything about it and just told me to leave if I don't like it.

I've also learned the hard way that not all hostels offer you a fridge to use. Many have breakfast buffets and don't allow you access to the kitchen, although that varies from country to country I think.

I'd love to have an RV one day, that would solve so many problems (except for loud parties on camping grounds). Right now I don't even have a parking space for a car, so that's in the distant future.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (9 children)

I am not a fan of AirBnB, but I have several life threatening food allergies and it's often the only option I have. I've stayed at hotels where they assured me they could take care of people with allergies on the telephone before, I always write my allergies in the booking, just to arrive and be told by kitchen staff that everything is prepared on the same cutting boards and actually I can't eat anything they have. They usually also don't allow you to store your own food, neither in the kitchen nor in the little fridge in your room.

I just wish there were more hotels with fridges or even little cooking areas to make my own breakfast. I've only encountered that twice. So far AirBnBs are my best option to stay in a different city. And it wouldn't even be that hard, just put in a slightly bigger fridge and some plates in hotel rooms and allow people who can't eat your breakfast buffet to use it.

I just feel like that's often forgotten in the discussion, that AirBnB - as bad as it is - also covers a niche for people with health issues that hotels aren't willing to cover. And that's also part of their success. Hotels are very standardized to fit the needs of most people, but as soon as you have health issues or can't eat a lot of things for whatever reason AirBnBs quickly become the better option.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 1 points 6 days ago

I could name you at least 10 off the top of my head in the city I live in.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 2 points 6 days ago

You know they don't want to do that. If they did, people would ask questions like "How come my 40$ homemade Spaghetti with fresh spinach sauce lists soylecithin, yeast extract and xanthan gum as ingredients?"

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 27 points 6 days ago (9 children)

I'm shocked that it isn't a law already. It's been obligatory in the EU for 10 years. Although a lot of restaurants don't follow it...

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Two and a half days. Also how I came to really understand how abusive my mother is. I needed surgery for a knee injury. I wasn't allowed to eat since the evening before. I went in, had surgery and my parents took me home to "take care of me". I was so hungry after the surgery because it was like 2 pm and I hadn't eaten since maybe 4 pm the day before, so I asked if we can stop for food. I was told no, we have food at home. "Home" was an hour by car away.

So we come home, I somehow manage to get into bed and ask for food. My mother exploded, yelled at me to not be a lazy good-for-nothing that slouches around on the bed and that the only way I was getting any food was by getting up and sitting at the dining table like a normal person. I really don't know why I thought they'd treat me better this time. I guess I thought they'd know it's a legit surgery (unlike non-legit things like flu and fever that has never been an excuse to stay in bed). Anyway, I had my bottle of water with me but no food. Probably not enough water either. On the evening of my second day there my leg was feeling good enough for me to hobble into the kitchen and grab some snacks.

On the bright side, I learned that the stuff I've been telling myself like "Yeah they're assholes but will be there for me when I need them" was a lie.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

There's this café in Nagoya, Japan, that serves sweet spaghetti: the spaghetti are flavoured with strawberry or chocolate and then you have fruits and sauces on top. It's delicious.

Edit because I just went through old photos and found one of the sweet spaghetti:

 

Hallo zusammen, ich habe eine eher rechtliche Frage. Ich habe noch keine legal Advice community gefunden, also versuche ich es hier.

Ich habe eine neue Arbeitsstelle angefangen und muss dafür umziehen mit meinen Mann. Da das Suchen nach einer Wohnung für uns beide länger dauert und ich auch noch pendel, habe ich mir hier ein Zimmer in einer Berufstätigen-WG genommen für ein paar Monate. Eigentlich wollte ich alles korrekt machen und daher auch die Zweitwohnung brav anmelden, zumal es hier eine Zweitwohnsitzsteuer gibt und die Strafen für verpasste Anmeldungen nicht ohne sind. Allerdings haben wir relativ schnell was richtiges gefunden und ich werde wohl nach nur 3-4 Monaten wieder ausziehen.

Ich würde die Zweitwohnung auch entsprechend auf meiner Steuererklärung angeben. Allerdings kriege ich keine Wohnungsgeberbestätigung und kann mich so nicht hier mit Zweitwohnaitz anmelden (die Gründe sind erstmal egal, ich kann sie gerne in einem seperaten Kommentar erklären).

Kann es Auswirkungen haben, wenn ich die Zweitwohnung nächstes Jahr bei der Steuererklärung angebe, sie aber nie als Wohnsitz offiziell gemeldet war?

Beides (Zweitwohnung und zukünftiger Hauptwohnsitz) sind in der gleichen Stadt.

 
 
 

So, this just happened in a café I was in.

At the table next to mine sat a group of 3 women who spoke in English with an American accent. I'm just mentioning that because Germany has strict laws on what you can name your child, so I don't think such a discussion would be had by a German.

One had a small toddler. I'm not good with guessing toddler ages, but she was crawling and shakily trying to stand. She came crawling under my table so the mother came over to pick her up and exchanged a few words. She told me her name was Thalia. I said that's a nice name.

For those who don't know, Thalia is the greek muse of comedy and poetry. It is also the name of a big bookstore chain in Germany.

Some ten minutes later I hear the mother talk about how they chose the name. And I kid you not, the explanation was: She liked Tabea. Her husband liked Delia. So they "invented" the name T(h?)alia as a compromise. She later found out that it's also the name of a German bookstore chain and found it funny. She even made a joke about how her daughter is named after a bookstore now, so I find it highly unlikely she knew about the greek muse.

So TL:DR - Parents think they are clever and making a "new" potential tragedeigh, end up reinventing ancient greek name.

 

Mine is this (I'll hide it so as not to influence your answer.)

Tap for spoilerA series of conspiracies and counter-conspiracies surrounding a mentally unstable danish prince ended in several murders.

 

I'm not sure if this would fit in with this community, so I thought I'd ask. I just recently found a collection of short writing prompts for practice. Like "Describe the school you went to in 5 sentences." or "You accidentally hit Reply All and everyone received an uncensored rant about your boss. Write the follow-up Reply-All."

It would be way more fun to do these with other people. Would this fit in this community or is this more focused on bigger story-ideas? Is there a community for fun little writing games?

 

David-Neel already had a passion for travel in her youth. She travelled through many european countries and wrote travel guide books. She was also active in anarchist and feminist circles all over Europe. At 21 she converted to buddhism and later travelled to India, where among other things she learned Sanskrit. From the ages 27 to 36 she worked as an opera singer and writer.

In 1911, at the age of 42, she set off on her longest journey to India and Tibet. She met the 13th Dalai Lamai in India and became fluent in Tibetan. The next years were spent in a buddhist monastery in India studying with several buddhist teachers. In 1916 she began her Journey to Tibet, entering which was at the time forbidden for foreigners. Still she managed to study buddhist scripts at the tempels and had an audience with the Panchen Lama. Upon her return to India the british authorities informed her that she was to be deported for violating the ban. Instead of going back to France, she travelled on to Japan, where she again spent time meeting with and learning from buddhist philosophers.

In 1924 she again entered Tibet, this time disguised as a beggar monk. Since she was travelling illegally, she mostly moved at night. She recounts fending off robbers and highwaymen by reciting songs or poems in her native language, French. Together with her unfamiliar European looks, that convinced the often very superstitious Tibetan robbers that she was a witch and to better not mess with her. In case that didn't work she was carrying a gun. She reached Lhasa as the first European woman the same year. She mingled with the crowd of worshipers and celebrated the Monlam Prayer Festival. She managed to stay for two month before she was discovered and had to leave. After 13 years in Asia, she decided to return to her home country.

In May 1925 David-Neel finally arrived back home in France. She wrote the book "My journey to Lhasa" and bought a house, which she turned into a buddhist temple that she called "Samten-Dzong" or "fortress of meditation".

In 1937, age 69, she again travelled to China to study buddhist scriptures. Again she also visited Tibet, studying scriptures at various temples. She returned back to France in 1946 at age 78. She went on to publish several books about buddhism and translated many buddhist scriptures from Tibetan to French.

In 1956 she went to stay with a friend in Monaco where she died in in 1969, one month before her 101st birthday.

Sources: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexandra_David-N%C3%A9el

https://himajomo.com/the-life-and-legacy-of-alexandra-david-neel/

https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20240313-trailblazing-journey-forbidden-city-of-lhasa

https://womeninexploration.org/timeline/alexandra-david-neel/

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Waldelfe@feddit.org to c/fuck_ai@lemmy.world
 

So, before you get the wrong impression, I'm 40. Last year I enrolled in a master program in IT to further my career. It is a special online master offered by a university near me and geared towards people who are in fulltime employement. Almost everybody is in their 30s or 40s. You actually need to show your employement contract as proof when you apply at the university.

Last semester I took a project management course. We had to find a partner and simulate a project: Basically write a project plan for an IT project, think about what problems could arise and plan how to solve them, describe what roles we'd need for the team etc. Basically do all the paperwork of a project without actually doing the project itself. My partner wrote EVERYTHING with ChatGPT. I kept having the same discussion with him over and over: Write the damn thing yourself. Don't trust ChatGPT. In the end, we'll need citations anyway, so it's faster to write it yourself and insert the citation than to retroactively figure them out for a chapter ChatGPT wrote. He didn't listen to me, had barely any citation in his part. I wrote my part myself. I got a good grade, he said he got one, too.

This semester turned out to be even more frustrating. I'm taking a database course. SQL and such. There is again a group project. We get access to a database of a fictional company and have to do certain operations on it. We decided in the group that each member will prepare the code by themselves before we get together, compare our homework and decide, what code to use on the actual database. So far whenever I checked the other group members' code it was way better than mine. A lot of things were incorporated that the script hadn't taught us at that point. I felt pretty stupid becauss they were obviously way ahead of me - until we had a videocall. One of the other girls shared her screen and was working in our database. Something didn't work. What did she do? Open a chatgpt tab and let the "AI" fix the code. She had also written a short python script to help fix some errors in the data and yes, of course that turned out to be written by chatgpt.

It's so frustrating. For me it's cheating, but a lot of professors see using ChatGPT as using the latest tools at our disposal. I would love to honestly learn how to do these things myself, but the majority of my classmates seem to see that differently.

 

So, this is a very complicated story and actually I feel like I'd have to write a book to explain it all. I'll keep it short and leave out a ton. I was severely bullied in school since grade one due to a skin condition. It doesn't matter which, it was very visible, all over my body. Teachers did nothing. It was the nineties in a small little village in the middle of nowhere. In third grade one teacher ask me why I don't take medicine or cover up with make-up so I wouldn't get bullied. My parents didn't do anything either, not even take me to a doctor.

In 7th grade my condition had gotten better, but now I was bullied for my clothes. My parents were horrible and didn't allow me to buy my own clothes, if I did I'd find it cut to pieces shortly after. My skin was also still not good, though not as severe. So I was bullied for dressing weirdly and for having bad skin. However in 7th grade I became part of a friendship group of 4. All outsiders for various reasons. And life was Ok. I still got bullied the most out of us four because of my skin. I was told to hide it with makeup and when I said I can't wear makeup due to allergic reactions the bullies said to "tough it out", because "noone wants to see that". I just stuck to our group and tried to ignore them. However in hindsight I feel like the other three never took the bullying seriously, since they were never the target. They were just more or less outsiders because they weren't interested in fashion, party etc.

One of the four was Lydia. Lydia didn't fit in because she was from an ultraconservative family and wasn't allowed to do many things. However, during our last two years of school her parents became less strict after her oldest brother moved out and cut contact at 18. She started hanging out with the others, going to parties etc. During our last few weeks I was repeatedly the butt of jokes. And she started defending my bullies, saying it's not that serious.

There was a kind of yearbook where everybody wrote comments about the classmates. The ones about me were all along the lines of "doesn't know what a shower is" "Someone please teach her about soap" and some nasty nicknames mocking my hobby I didn't even know they had for me. I've tried so often to defend myself and explain my skin condition and that it's genetic, yet up to the very last day everybody kept bullying me saying I'm dirty and disgusting.

I talked about it with my three friends and said I wanted to protest and have it taken out before the yearbook gets printed. (The list with everybodies comments had circled before printing.) Lydia told me I'm sensitive, that I shouldn't take it so serious and I shouldn't censor all critism of me. I was so shocked by her saying that. She used to be on my side.

Shortly after we graduated she moved away and didn't stay in contact. I tried a few times, said I could come visit her one day, but at first I only got one-sentence-answers, later nothing. I sent her a small gift and card on her first birthday after graduation, she replied with a short thanks, sent me a generic textmessage on my birthday and we never spoke again.

Now someone wants to organize the 20 year reunion of our highschool class. I was added to a whatsapp group - not sure where they got my number from - and Lydia contacted me. The usual small talk. How's life been, how many kids, yadada. I way shocked enough to be suddenly added to that group. It brought back so many bad memories, I wanted to cry, I wanted to write into the group how I wish they'd all die the most horrible, painful death. I didn't, I just left the group without any comment. I did answer Lydia and am doing the small talk, but inside all I want to ask is "how could you betray me like that? Why did you do that to me?"

I mean I guess I know the answer. I stayed losely in contact with another member of our group. A few month after graduation the topic came up and she said she didn't think I was bullied, because I "could have just covered up with makeup like they said I should and worn more fashionable clothes". Since I didn't, I chose to be ridiculed. I guess that would be the answer if I asked Lydia.

I don't know what kind of answer I'm expecting here, I'm just very confused and hurt and don't know how to behave. Ignore her? Block her? Ask her about it? Would that change anything? It would hurt so much if she just told me I was never bullied and I'm sensitive or asked for it. I don't know has anyone got advise? Has anyone who was bullied been in a similar position? What would you do?

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Waldelfe@feddit.org to c/spiele_analog@feddit.org
 

Ich habe eine Freundin, die Brettspiele mag und gerade Deutsch lernt. Ich würde ihr gerne ein Brettspiel zum Geburtstag schenken, mit dem wir auch zusammen Deutsch üben können. Sie macht gerade eine A1-Kurs, sie ist also noch ganz am Anfang. Hat jemand eine Idee für ein Spiel, dass sich nicht nur an Kleinkinder richtet? Vielleicht etwas mit repetitiven Sätzen, die man schnell lernen kann. Wir haben schon Black Stories versucht, aber das war noch etwas zu schwierig.

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