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My boyfriend (20) and I (18) have been living together for 2 years in an urban apartment. For us, it usually goes like this:

  1. Delivery
  2. Eating out
  3. Cooking at home

We visit our parents (and they visit us) often, and they give us lots of home-cooked food. We mostly cook at home just for fun.

I’m curious what it’s like for other people, especially in different age groups or family setups!

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[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 18 points 16 hours ago (4 children)

I envy your financial situation that you can afford to do that.

My weekly grocery budget (single person household) is £25 (~US$34), which is about the price of a decent meal for one person in a low-end restaurant here. Seven days food and other household supplies for the price of one meal. Stop and think on that for a bit, maybe.

Family do help me out from time to time, but they're not exactly rolling in money either, so what they provide would otherwise be covered by that budget. They just help me stretch things a bit further.

Could I afford to spend a bit more? Possibly. But I like to keep a little extra put by for that inevitable disaster where I have to hire someone to fix what neither I nor my family can handle.

Perhaps importantly here, I like to know that I could get by without family help, and I'm pretty sure I could. Can you say the same?

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 1 points 6 hours ago

£15 each for 2 of us here. I just don't really see much need to spend more than that.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 7 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

Would you be willing to discuss your grocery list on that budget? I recently allotted myself $175 per 2 week pay period for groceries for me, a single man living alone. I find myself going over. I think my biggest weakness is snacks, which are extremely difficult for me to not have on hand.

[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Cans of soup, microwaved, for the occasional hot meal. Cold meals most of the time. For various reasons, that I won't get into, I don't cook.

Breakfast is toast (2 slices) or cereal (1 small bowl). Soy milk. Cow's milk would be way cheaper, but I'm intolerant. Tea. What can I say, I'm British. I do like a cup of tea.

Lunch is mixed nuts (~30g) - technically a luxury, but I figure they have minerals I need - mixed dried fruit (~50g) and a slice of multi-seed bread. Another luxury, but again, this is mostly about nutrition. Apple juice half and half with hot water (~450ml total). Dilution makes it go further and the heat raises the flavour profile a bit from cold diluted.

Yes, I know apple juice isn't very nutritious.

Evening meal is usually a sandwich. Plain white bread. A slice of some pre-packaged meat or another. Sometimes processed meat, sometimes an actual slice. Those are more expensive. Salad also in the sandwich. Sometimes I have the aforementioned soup instead. Tea, of course.

An extra cup of tea here and there. I do have biscuits (cookies) in the house and I get through a handful of those a day. I should do without tbh, but they're pretty much my only food vice. If things get really tight, those would be the first to go. (I've already had to stop buying the "budget" chocolate bar I liked because it's three times the price it was three years ago.)

I have a few other canned goods (beans, meats, fruit) that I buy when I can and then break into occasionally. Sometimes I buy noodles when they're on offer for a treat.

Most of the above comes in two or three levels of quality versus price, and I get the highest quality I can of each while remaining in budget. If I have to buy toothpaste or toilet paper or whatever, I drop the quality of something else in order to fit it in.

If there's any general advice I can give here, it's substitute your snacks with a drink you really like instead. Preferably a cheap, low calorie one that's mostly water. Yes, it means you pee more, but you're full for a while, and you're hydrated.

I should probably also note that my BMI is, and has been, fairly steady around 25, which is the heavy end of healthy on the above diet for a good while now. If I became less sedentary, I'd probably lose weight at first and then level out around 20 or so.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 hours ago

No one should have to do without tea. That would be inhuman. The cooking thing is the serious rub for you I think. Beans and rice would be a terrific addition to this diet. You have your reasons though, as you said, which I’m sure are very valid.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 6 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

Some thoughts:

  • Buy in bulk - if you compare unit prices, you'll see the bulk version is usually cheaper
  • Make your own snacks - e.g., granola is pretty quick and easy to make at home
  • Try Aldi or Lidl
  • Give generic versions of things a try - a lot of the time they're pretty close to the 'real' thing
  • Things that are convenient are usually more expensive. Just looking online quickly, I see the big tub of old-fashioned oats is $6.39 for 30 servings (=21¢/serving), vs a box of instant oatmeal at $3 for 8 servings (=38¢/serving). So to save money, choose the less convenient version.
  • Plan your meals before you shop, and pick up only what you need - this helps avoid impulse purchases
[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 3 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I am so used to Aldi that I almost forget branded things exist. Those oats sound really expensive, I get them under £1/kg

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 1 points 5 hours ago

Yeah, both prices I gave were for name brand (Quaker). The generic Aldi oats are just as good!

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

And on buying in bulk - if funds are limited you can ease into this by budgeting for ONE bulk item each weekly shopping trip. It will build your pantry, you don't have to make a big immediate outlay.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (3 children)

Snacks are an incredible waste of money and they have some of the largest profit margins of all grocery items. $5 for a bag of chips that isn't even a pound is disgusting, but they charge it because people pay it. It only makes sense to buy snacks if you're wealthy from screwing other people over, or you're on welfare.

If you want to eat cheap, you need to swallow your pride. Probably one of the best meals that just about anyone can make is a microwave meatball sub with raw broccoli and carrots on the side. Extremely easy, very cheap, filling, and it's always going to be delicious if you're actually hungry.

Get used to eating the same things over and over again, and stop treating food like entertainment.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 0 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

You can eat real food cheaply rather than living from a microwave.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 1 points 5 hours ago

It'll take a lot more effort, but yeah of course you can.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

You can eat cheap and still enjoy it, without so much repetition.

I agree with cutting out mindless snacking though, that's not good for you.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 3 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

It only makes sense to buy snacks if you're wealthy from screwing other people over, or you're on welfare.

Hmm... It is easy to hate the rich, but are you brave enough to despise the poor

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 0 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

or you're on welfare.

If you are asking in earnest. You should really give some thought where the conditioning to repeat this trope is coming from.

I am not even going to dispute that some poors have bad spending habits but that ain't what this comment is about.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 1 points 5 hours ago

Have you ever been on welfare? They give you enough money to get snacks, too.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 13 hours ago

A lot of people don't understand is that food out is a luxury.

The entire premise of the OP assumes that people have this choice lol

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su -3 points 12 hours ago (3 children)

£25 (~US$34), which is about the price of a decent meal for one person in a low-end restaurant here.

Bullshit.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Checks out actually if you have a main and pudding or a drink. Not many places will be cheaper than that.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Where are you talking about that this is the case?

We can do internet searches to see if you're correct.

[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Maybe I could have been clearer about the number of courses I was talking about.

The last meal I went out for was a family outing paid for by a relative. There were five of us (one a child) and we all had a two course meal and drinks. The bill was well in excess of £100. This was not an upscale restaurant.

Yes there were cheaper options on the menu. The starters, and maybe a couple of the mains were under £10, but that's just one course.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

There are also cheaper restaurants to go to. Much cheaper.

Your argument made it seem like there are no cheaper restaurants, which is false.

You're choosing to pay that price.

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

Why are you being so unpleasant?

I’m curious where you live that dining out is so cheap and welfare pays so much.

[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

This guy lives at Golden Corral in the middle of Oklahoma or something

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su -5 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (2 children)

You don't have to be curious. Just about everywhere there is civilization, you can eat at a restaurant for under THIRTY-FOUR FUCKING DOLLARS. The fact this needs to be spelled out to you should be a wake up call to anyone who isn't living in your privileged bubble.

A better question would be, where are you living where you can't find a meal for under that price? I'd love to know so we can do some internet searching and see if you're telling the truth.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Original comment was a bit hyperbolic.

More realistic number for anything that requires 20% tipping, 20usd in any tier 1 and tier 2 us cities. That's like very basic one dish, nothing else.

[–] icystar@lemmy.cif.su -1 points 5 hours ago

Again, you're wrong.

What cities are you talking about? I'll show you restaurants that are cheaper than what you say.

Also, tipping is a scam and every time you do it you keep it going on for longer.