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I told my autistic son to stop following a girl around and telling her she is sexy after he got in trouble for doing it. Told him why, and explained how that stalking criminal charges could be brought against him. Explained how an arrest and criminal record would make his life exceedingly difficult.
So he doubled down and threatened the girl's boyfriend instead.
Oh I wish logic and reason applied, I would happily explain ANYTHING in extreme detail. I mean, I have.
I have no idea how to get through to this boy. School is little help, psychologists don't know or won't be bothered to know, therapists are clueless. He's high-functioning in so many ways so most are happy to ignore him--until shit like this comes up.
That sounds like there may be some anger management issues in there too... That or he's not as high functioning as you think on the emotional side.
Or maybe he needs a long conversation explaining how others are allowed to be autonomous and it's OK if others have different preferences and relationships. Or that consent is the #1 feature of healthy interactions, and if someone doesn't want you, forcing it is just going to make everyone miserable even if he could snap his fingers and maker her his GF.
did you try asking him to have empathy and understand the girl's position?
Autistics still have empathy...
Being told and understanding are fundamentally different things.