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Is struggling with goals a human problem or an adhd problem (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 week ago by bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I have never been able to set goals. Mostly because I'm working on 100 projects at once. But also because a goal could get changed by something outside of your control.

If I do try making goals, they usually just end up being "make more money so I can put it toward project #67 to maybe get closer to done". I've kind of had the goal of "learn to program" my whole life but never can get past chapter 2 of any class I take. I've kind of started a visual basic training but even once im done with that its not like i can go off and make a program that is useful. And game design requires such an insane e time commitment id have to stop all my other projects to even think about that route.

I guess a big part is I dont see a point in goals either. Everything is always dynamic so even if you reach a goal it may not even matter by the time you finish it.

My day job is mildly challenging but mostly easy. We have to set 4 goals a year but I usually just make them something im already doing (update how tos for certain tasks, take a business seminar class, etc).

And im only mildly adhd (so they say. I feel like its way worse, I just hide it very well).

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[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (3 children)

“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Fuck I don’t know, if I’m still alive then hopefully with food on the table and shelter? I could be in a different country or career or anything in 5 whole years, or doing exactly the same thing.

Some people really are more “goal focused” and more power to them but it’s frustrating getting looked at funny for accepting that life is unpredictable and framing accordingly.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

I hate this question as well ha. I think its meant for the super-business-line-go-up types.

[–] Hegar@fedia.io 4 points 1 week ago

it’s frustrating getting looked at funny for accepting that life is unpredictable and framing accordingly.

Yes, this! I always want to answer that you'd have to be a charlatan or delusional to claim that's knowable information.

Like when people would ask 'what do you want to be when you grow up?', and I presumed they meant 'what are you interested in at the moment?'

[–] bent@feddit.dk 3 points 1 week ago

In 5 years? Somewhere between running the country and on the streets. Hopefully I'll be somewhere close to my current situation though.