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What's something that made you softer or colder in life? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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Life changes us in many ways, with good and bad. What made you softer or colder?

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[–] WillStealYourUsername@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I've been made colder by all the anxiety and self hatred from being trans, and from not nice parents I couldn't trust. Being bullied in elementary school by what used to be my closest friends also has made me struggle to reach out to people.

I rediscovered some warmth when I got on E, and being able to be myself all the time helps. Talking to people online has helped a lot too. Still, some wounds remain and I am still working on opening up.

Politically it's hard to describe all the details without ranting for too long, but it's hard to have patience for people when I know their stance is based solely on propaganda and feelings. I've been a dumb ignorant teen, and unfortunately it seems some people don't grow out of that phase.

I've learnt to have some patience and not let polarization get the best of me, but I still sometimes happens when it's something I care about or if I'm already in a bad place. There's no real value in attacking someone who holds harmful opinions. Doesn't change them or make the world better in any way.

I do wish I had friends I could hug and talk about the stuff I struggle to bring up. I have some close guy friends but it's just not enough really.